Positive psychology 08.10.2016

Dear readers, each of us, at least once in our lives, has found ourselves in crisis situations, and everyone knows that “saving drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves,” and that, even if everything is very bad, there is still a way out!

And today on the blog I want to present to you a kind of continuation of the topic raised in the article from Marina Tamilova, a teacher, psychologist and person of diverse hobbies. I give the floor to Marina, who this time will share with you her own recipe for getting out of difficult life situations that often abound in our lives.

Dear readers, in today’s article I want to offer you my personal, working, method of pulling yourself out of a dead end in life. No matter how bad you feel, sooner or later you will have to pull yourself together and move forward. I hope I can help you with this...

What's the worst thing in life?

Life often presents a person with surprises: both pleasant and unpleasant. Some have more pleasant things, while others have the opposite. Sometimes people live for years in misfortunes and stress, and not just imagined ones, but the most real ones: an endless series of illnesses, deaths of relatives, impoverishment, family breakdown and even homelessness. Such troubles simply kill a person from the inside, destroying his soul and leading him further and further from unity with the Absolute.

The worst thing in this situation is that many cannot stand it (and they can be understood), they are offended by the whole world and turn away from the Source from which we all came. It is very difficult not to be offended when the most difficult trials befall you. While other people live and enjoy life to the fullest. How to explain to a normal person who is trying to live according to his conscience that all problems come from himself, and people and God have absolutely nothing to do with it.

You should always understand that the life situation you have in the present is the result of your actions or, conversely, inaction in the past. There is no point in being offended by this. A person always has a choice: to be offended or not, to help someone, to return evil for evil or not, to choose this particular person or another as a spouse, to accept a low-paid job and complain about poverty, or to take responsibility for your life and create yourself anew in accordance with your ideas about your own life.

Most often, a person chooses to do nothing because he is scared and does not know what awaits ahead. We are not used to freedom. Especially the older generation, who grew up in the Soviet Union and are accustomed to the fact that everything in life is written down and understandable. At that time, a good education guaranteed employment and good income, but now - no. Many are forty-year-olds, great educated people, became confused and could not find their place in life, which led to a series of suicides and mental disorders in the 90s.

“Thanks to” perestroika, we lost several generations of “psychological children, teenagers and young men” who simply could not adapt. The more resilient survived and rose up, able to fight for their “place in the sun” both physically and mentally. But only 10% of the population is like that. They are the ones who occupy places on the Forbes lists.

The most difficult thing in our time is for “psychological young people” - these are people, often with several higher education, very smart and comprehensively educated. Unfortunately, they are used to thinking a lot, but not doing. That is why they are at very low levels of society, and sometimes below the poverty line, if they were unable to adequately “sell” their intellect. In general, most people behave as if they have 500 years left to live, as Bill Gates once put it.

Life's dead end. What to do? How to find a way out of a difficult situation

There are several options:

go to people for help;
help someone who is worse off;
carry out general cleaning in the house;
get rid of negative thoughts and beliefs;
forgive everyone;
stop being offended altogether;
get out of your comfort zone;
take responsibility for your life.

The last item on this list is the most important. You need to understand that no one, instead of you, will create you anew or make you a completely different person.

They can help you financially, if you’re lucky, they can help you with work, but no one, instead of you, will mold you into a new strong personality who will be able to live by your own rules and at the same time succeed. Nobody argues that it is difficult. Especially when there is emotional instability. Periods of inspiration and activity are replaced by times of complete despair and the feeling that nothing will ever work out, and it is better to “go with the flow”, leaving everything as it is. And now specifically what you personally need to do to change your life.

We describe our life

Sit in silence and write down in detail what you want in life. Don't be shy. For example, if you want a yacht and a villa in Italy, then write, no matter how stupid and unrealistic it all may seem to you.

Visualization

Find bright pictures of your future life, stick them on a large sheet of whatman paper along with your photographs in chic interiors next to a handsome prince or princess. Whatman paper needs to be hung in the most visible place in your apartment. This is very inspiring.

Looking for inspiration

Find music and meditation that inspires you personally on the Internet and listen to it every day.

What about grievances?

Get rid of all grievances honestly and be sure that if you don’t do this, it’s the same as “to spite the conductor” - buy a ticket and walk. It is the accumulated grievances and old junk unfinished business and desires prevent you from moving forward. If you are a Christian, go to church often and pray. For some, this helps a lot in difficult situations. Confess, take communion, light candles and pray for everyone who has offended you. This will bring invaluable benefits to your soul.

Moments of kickbacks

In moments of “kickbacks”, when you want to roar and do nothing, sit and roar, break dishes, throw things around, dance until you drop to let off steam. And when the hysteria ends, put things in order and start all over again. Over time, such disruptions will become less and less common. Everyone has them. It is your EGO that resists releasing you into a new bright life. Not only the EGO resists, but also the egregor of the negativity that you have been accumulating for years. Egregors are unique energy fields to which each of us is connected. Egregors feed on your emotions. If you live mostly in negativity, then you attract negative egregors to yourself, who do not benefit from you changing.

Little steps and baby steps

Do a little something every day to move towards your goal. Don't be upset because you can't do it. Sooner or later it will work out if you are persistent enough and don’t stop halfway. If you don’t regularly create yourself and your life, then life, the environment and other people will create you, and they will do it in such a way that you will not like it at all.

Our action plan

Make a plan for your actions real world and list psychological practices that need to be done every day to get out of a crisis situation. Exercise helps you move forward and neutralize fears, anxiety and pessimism. Also include regular physical activity in your daily schedule, since your body is the “temple of the soul.” The better your body is, the more energy, will and strength you have to create your new life.

Just start doing

It must be said that many people do everything I wrote about above, but never move on to real actions, unable to move himself at all. This happens because your thoughts are still negative. Subconsciously, you do not yet believe in yourself and feel that you are unworthy of change.

What to do about it? It will take time for you to develop the habit of replacing each of your negative thoughts with 2-3 positive ones. For example: “I won’t succeed” you can replace with “I am God’s beloved child, and all his blessings are created for me”, “if God is for me, then who is against me?”, “I always succeed because that God directs all my actions.”

For atheists and representatives of other religions, I note that the word God here means the Creator of all things, the Universe, which exists independently of any beliefs and religions created by man. This is the Absolute, which is above everything and which is the most powerful energy of unconditional love from which we all came.

In addition to cleansing your thoughts, you will also need to cleanse your body, which is also accustomed to experiencing suffering. Slags and toxins accumulate in the body not only from alcohol, nicotine and junk food, which we all consume, especially in moments of psychological stress and melancholy. Negativity from corresponding mental thought forms also gets stuck in the body. We feel it in tense muscles, a distorted and gloomy face, and chronic diseases. That is why massage, releasing bodily blocks and physical exercise must be made your constant companions on the path to a bright future.

Effective practices for getting out of life's impasse

In conclusion, I will give a few effective methods ambulance, when the thought once again came that “everything is bad, and it will always be like this”:

smile - to let the body know that everything is fine;
jump - to shake and invigorate the body;
walking, sitting and living only with a straight back - this is fundamentally important, because... energy flows through the spine;
pinch yourself by the little finger - to pull you out of bad thoughts;
to the question “how are you?” ALWAYS answer “the best!”;
take different routes home and to work, preferably on foot, to create a feeling of change and vigor.

When you learn to pull yourself out of a state of melancholy using such methods, you can more closely focus on tuning into the positive wave of your life. inner world using the techniques outlined in this article.

I thank Marina for her thoughts. On my own behalf, I want to say that you should never give up, no matter what happens in your life. If something happens, these are all just our lessons. This means that for some reason we need to go through everything. I've been through so much myself. And every time I looked for a way out of their crisis.

Perhaps many will say, after reading the steps, all this is trivial, I did it, it didn’t help me, nothing can be changed, and some of these thoughts will continue. I would like to emphasize this point: when a person is stressed, it is very rare that he himself will be able to get out of the crisis. Emotions just run wild and prevent us from thinking. The exception is people who already have a lot of wisdom, a lot of knowledge about our work on ourselves.

Do not isolate yourself under any circumstances! Look for a person, perhaps a professional, who will be close to you, whom you can hear. This could be a psychologist, a wise friend, or useful useful books. And ask the Universe for help. I remember how, in the most difficult times, I would go to the window in the evening, look at the starry sky, ask questions and ask for strength to cope.

There is no one recipe for everyone. We are all different. But you definitely need to look for something that will help you get out of a crisis situation. This is our path.

And the most important thing for all of us, as Marina correctly wrote, is to make our CHOICE. This applies to everything. And health, and wonderful work worthy of you, and a loved one nearby, and simple joys. I wish everyone a worthy choice, wisdom and steps, work in this direction.

Dear readers, it is difficult to capture the immensity in one article. If you're having a hard time, check out our section. I am sure that you will find a lot of useful things for yourself. Perhaps this is where your work on yourself will begin, including getting out of the crisis.

And more news from me from our creative team. Our autumn issue of the magazine “Scents of Happiness” - Wings of Autumn - has been released. You can find out everything here.

Autumn issue of Scents of Happiness

And for the soul we will listen to Richard Clayderman Mariage d'amour. Relax with pleasant music.

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Elina
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Instructions

Although crisis situations and knock a person out of his usual life rut, but on the other hand, they provide him with the opportunity to reassess his life values. After all, it is at this time that he can look at his life from a different angle and evaluate the current circumstances.

To get out of the crisis, use one of three main directions. First, never accept a problem. This only indicates that the usual life attitude has exhausted itself, and another life stage has ended. Bring the matter to an end, sum up the results and move on to a new stage of your life.

Secondly, if you don’t want to change anything in your life, then try to reflect on the problems that have arisen. Draw conclusions for yourself that will help you accept the current situation.

And finally, you can adapt to circumstances, go with the flow, relying on the actions and decisions of other people. In this case, the crisis situation will sooner or later lead you to living conditions that you will be forced to accept.

Any of these options has the right to exist, and you can use each of them separately or in combination with each other. Each situation will require its own solution, because life is diverse in its manifestations, and no situation will be similar to another.

Perceive the problem as a problem that needs to be solved; subsequently, the acquired knowledge will help you build your life exactly the way you want. But all these problems must be solved as they arise, because the more unresolved problems, the higher the wall you have built, and the more difficult it will be to destroy it.

Don’t go into the problem headlong, but try to realize the opportunity to put your feelings and thoughts in order. Prayers, meditation, and doing what you love, such as gardening or handicrafts, will help you with this. Go swimming, take a walk in the park, read your favorite book or watch a movie. Make your old dream come true: learn foreign language, conquer Everest or throw away the trash from your home. The result will not be long in coming, and soon you will be able to feel that the unfavorable situation has turned around for you, changes for the better and new opportunities will appear.

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How to find a way out hopeless situation? Life presents every person with a variety of, sometimes unimaginable, situations. We cannot even imagine what tomorrow has in store for us. That is why parents must form trusting relationships with their children in order to always be aware of their problems and come to the rescue in time, showing ways out of difficult situations.

Useful advice

Do you know the feeling of a hopeless situation? I think almost everyone is familiar with it. And everyone seems to know (at least Simoron practitioners) that there is always a way out - absolutely and without exception. On the other hand, finding this very way out is sometimes not at all easy. However, it is worth remembering in time the funny phrase of Nikolai Fomenko: “Even if you are eaten, you always have two options.” Well, or this one: “The exit from a hopeless situation is where the entrance is.”

Every person has moments in life when it seems that there is no exit. In such a situation, it is better not to waste time thinking about the reasons for what happened, but to direct your mental strength to solving the problem.

Instructions

First, accept the situation as a fact and understand that it has already happened and there is no turning back.

If you think it is possible, then seek help from other people, be it family, friends or acquaintances. You may find it easier to talk to someone you don't know or turn to religion.

There are people who cope better with problems alone. If you belong to this category, do not force yourself or force yourself to communicate if you do not want to.

Learn physical relaxation techniques. These could be various breathing techniques or the basics of yoga.

Be in nature more often. It would be nice to take a walk near a pond. Many people believe that water treatments They help cleanse not only the body, but also the soul, so swim more and, if you wish, visit the bathhouse.

Pay attention to physical activity. It doesn't have to be a sport. If you enjoy cleaning the house, working in the garden or garage, then this may also be a way out of the problem.

Revisit your old hobby or start a new one. Collecting, visiting museums, handicrafts, anything that can distract you from sad thoughts.

Instructions

Get rid of the victim complex. If you tend to blame everything and everyone for your own failures, then you should learn to take responsibility for yourself. own life. The realization that only you can change it, independently choose the path you will take next, make the only right decision, will help you get rid of the psychological shackles that make you believe in your own helplessness and the hostility of the world around you.

Take a break. Unpleasant news and events can unsettle you for a long time. Panic, nervousness, and irritation are unlikely to help you make the right decision. Don’t make any conclusions rashly, give yourself time to “reboot.” Walk down the street, drink a cup of coffee or tea, eat a piece of chocolate - before acting, help yourself calm down and relax a little.

Find out the source of the negativity. Try to describe your feelings more precisely. Resentment? Anger? Fear of the unknown? These emotions are unconstructive and only interfere with adequately perceiving the situation. In any situation, remember that everything passes. And in a month or a year, today’s difficulties will seem like just everyday troubles.

Understand the situation. Arm yourself with a pen and paper; it’s easier to structure your thoughts on a sheet of paper than in your own head. First, describe the situation that has arisen. Then write down what the worst outcome could be. Try to come to terms with him. In most cases, being aware of even the worst-case scenario is better than not knowing. Now write down on paper which result will be most optimal for you. Having decided on this point, draw up an action plan that will help achieve a favorable outcome.

If the situation is such that you cannot predict its development, try to outline probable scenarios and accept them, just go with the flow. To take your mind off sad thoughts, do something you love or allow yourself to relax. Remember that every difficult situation gives you invaluable life experience.

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None of us are immune from occasionally getting into difficult situations. Of course, they are all different, and they also have to be solved in different ways. Sometimes, in order to get out of it, it is enough to simply change your view of what happened and, perhaps, slightly change your psychology.

Instructions

Don't hold back your emotions and don't listen to those who tell you to pull yourself together. Throw a tantrum, break a couple of plates, discharge yourself, as psychologists advise. Let off steam - stomp, scream, cry, this will cause less harm than hidden emotions.

Don’t stress yourself out, don’t imagine the consequences that the current situation may entail. Deal with troubles as they come. Why suffer in advance about what may or may not happen? Don't pile up all your problems, don't suffer more than necessary.

Take a difficult situation as an excellent opportunity to test your strength and your fighting qualities, because it is not without reason that folk wisdom says: everything that does not kill us makes us stronger. If there were no difficult situations, we would value happy moments less.

Analyze the situation. Often, we limit ourselves and take on obligations that are not at all necessary to fulfill; we believe that we must do something, or, conversely, not do something. The knowledge that these imaginary obligations have not been fulfilled can poison our existence. Think, maybe your difficult situation is connected with this.

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Tip 3: How to remain optimistic in difficult times life situation

Positivity can be difficult to maintain in difficult life circumstances. When circumstances are not right the best way, you need to find the strength to remain optimistic. There are several for this simple ways. Work on yourself and don't give up.

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Try to focus not on negative aspects, but on positive aspects. Whatever difficult situation No matter where you are, there are probably at least some pleasant moments during the day that you should think about before going to bed.

When you focus only on the bad, you stop seeing reasons to be happy. Once you shift your attention to more optimistic moments, it will become easier to remain positive.

Be mindful of what you have in life. Health, home, family, work, friends, pets or hobbies - all this is your wealth. Don't forget to thank life for giving you these blessings.

Set the mood

You can influence your own mood through books or films. During difficult periods in your life, stop watching the news and heavy movies. Give preference to comedies. Read inspirational or relaxing literature, such as detective stories, humorous stories, or fantasy. Depressing novels and crime reports will only increase your stress.

Little joys will make your life more enjoyable and give you an additional reason to smile. Physical comfort, delicious food, a pleasant pastime, a relaxing massage, and walks will help you maintain an optimistic mood.

Choose your environment

Be careful about which people are around you most of the day. Your environment influences your life in general and your mood in particular. When you communicate a lot with optimistic, cheerful people, you get a charge of positivity. On the contrary, spending time with negatively-minded individuals, you yourself may begin to complain, criticize, whine and see everything in dark shades.

Take action

Do everything in your power to resolve a difficult situation. Don't give up, but work to get out of the difficult situation. Try, and you will have a reason to be proud of yourself, and therefore to be in good location spirit. When a person does not realize his own potential and gives up, he already feels unhappy because of this.

In addition, thanks to your efforts, a difficult situation may soon change for the better. Then there will be no reason to worry.

Get rid of negativity

Watch your words and thoughts. Don't allow negativity to appear in them. This is especially true for self-criticism. Remember that you need to love yourself, not blame yourself. Think about your achievements and strengths. Praise and encourage yourself. Then it will be easier for you to overcome all the difficult moments on your life’s path.

We give out advice left and right that there is a way out of any unpleasant situation, and even more than one. We tune in to the positive and try to console others that not everything is as bad as it seems at first glance. But when we ourselves are overwhelmed by troubles that are approaching from all sides, the advice that we ourselves offered looks simply ridiculous and helpless.

What to do in a difficult life situation where you see only one dead end? There are effective tips on what to do in this case.

1. First of all, try to calm down and stop. There is no need to quickly rush headlong into the pool and take incomprehensible actions that can lead to even bigger problems. You need to pause and decide where you are and how you ended up in this position. Take time to reflect on why it turned out the way it did and not something completely different. When you can find the entrance, then you will find the exit in one moment.

2. Effective advice on how to get out of a dead end is to get rid of the emotions overwhelming you at that moment. Fear, anger, and disappointment prevent you from concentrating normally in the face of a problem. Often our negative emotions, which acquire enormous proportions, we make mountains out of molehills and see absolutely no way out, just a dead end. If you want to smash something to smithereens - do it, you want to scream and swear - go ahead, give vent to your anger, do not hold destructive energy within yourself.

3. When you are overcome by complete devastation, only then bright thoughts will begin to come into your head and everything will become clearer from a different angle. Make yourself a tea with lemon and ginger, or brew some hot coffee; energy drinks will help your brain work faster. Take a piece of paper and start writing down absolutely all ideas for getting out of a deadlock situation, even the most absurd ones; in such cases, all means are good.

4. Do not think alone, seek help from your comrades and loved ones who have not turned away in difficult times. There is a proverb: “One head is good, but two are better.” Perhaps they will offer their own options that will be useful to you, because sometimes you know better from the outside.

5. The next step will be a full analysis of the proposed ideas. Weigh up all the pros and cons. Make three thorough plans to get out of a crisis situation. Plan A and B are the most effective, and plan C is a backup. Clearly thought-out scenarios with several options give a much higher percentage of success than just one.

6. In a difficult life situation, gather your strength and spirit and begin to put your anti-crisis plan into action. By going step by step, without stepping back, you will achieve what you want and get out of the troubles surrounding your life, and the understanding of what to do will come by itself.

7. In difficult times, people who care about you and to whom you are very dear will help you survive misfortunes. Don't push them away or isolate them from your society, let them help you. You can even ask them for help yourself, in such situations you understand who the most devoted and faithful people are.

8. In our lives, we rely a lot on circumstances, while understanding that they do not promise anything good. You can't do that. We create our own destiny, so pull yourself together and don’t let circumstances get the better of you.

9. One more in an effective way The way to get out of a deadlock situation is to exclude people with . In every person’s environment, there will definitely be a person who will exaggerate and lower your faith in yourself. Such people do not see happiness and positive points, they have nothing but negativity all around. If possible, avoid them, do not let them lower your self-esteem, otherwise you will panic and give up.

10. When you're in trouble, look for something that will motivate you while you get out of the situation. Strive to communicate with those who believe in you and know that you can withstand any blow.

11. In difficult moments, you should not be afraid to take risks and think about mistakes, every person has them. It would be stupid to sit idly by. Every mistake you make will be a lesson from which you will gain useful and necessary information.

12. Don't listen to those who say they know how best to live and be. They will constantly remind you and poke you about your past mistakes. Send them away from you, let them hang noodles on the ears of others, losers just like them. This is your life and only you can decide whether you can get out of trouble or not. Believe in yourself and you will succeed. You are not a loser, but a winner!

From time to time we are faced with situations and circumstances that seem either difficult to resolve or completely unsolvable. In such cases, despairing of finding a way out of the current situation, we especially urgently need an objective and sober look from the outside. But where to find it, this interested and thoughtful opinion? Where can we find a truly wise person who, in difficult times, will help us along this only path, Ariadne’s thread, and tell us how to break out of the vicious circle?

We very often entrust this important decision to our loved ones or friends. This has its advantages. First of all, we certainly trust them. Secondly, one can hope that their “outside view” will be more accurate in assessing the situation. And thirdly, we simply don’t know who else we can turn to for help. The disadvantages of such a solution are also obvious: it is unlikely that the decision of your loved ones will be the best, if only because they do not know the full depth of the problem, all its shades and nuances. Only you know this. But then what to do in such cases?!

There is a way out. And the most amazing thing is that you know him. You know how to solve the most difficult problem, how to find a way out of the most difficult and confusing situation. There is a solution. And if it’s not easy for you to believe this, then think about how you are looking for keys that are not in their usual place. You know they are at home. You know for sure that they are somewhere. It is also obvious to you that sooner or later you will find them. But where are they?

In order to find a solution to a problem that defies the most desperate logic, we need to take a paradoxical path: to make it seem as if the problem has a solution, as in school textbooks on physics and algebra all the answers to the problems are given. All you have to do is find the corresponding pages where all these solutions are contained and select the current answer. And in order to find these pages with answers to all our questions, we will need the so-called wise man technique: a psychological exercise that will allow us to reduce the search for solutions to the most complex everyday problems to a minimum.

The wise man’s technique is performed only once, and after that you will receive answers to any, even the most complex questions about life. However, for this to actually happen, the technique must be performed very carefully and seriously. It consists in the fact that you create in your imagination the image of a wise person who helps you solve all your problems. This image accompanies you in the future, like a talisman. He will be like a genie that you can call from the bottle in difficult times. And he will always come to your aid as soon as you ask him for it.

How is a wise person created? A person’s imagination is so strong that he can come up with almost anything he can imagine. If you want to take a moment to imagine what a pink Christmas tree would look like, you can do it. You can easily create the desired pictures and images. You can also remember and reproduce the sounds of your favorite melodies, humming their tune to yourself. You can hear a voice: male or female, loud or quiet, high or low. If you wish, you can see a picture and hear how it might sound: for example, a ball that bounces on the floor not only has a certain color and shape, but also makes a certain sound when it bounces off the floor. We do all this thousands of times every day: we imagine pictures, hear voices, and we can even see a full-color movie with our own participation.

In order to create a wise person, you will need exactly the ability to see with your inner eye and hear with your inner ear that you have. You don't need anything supernatural or mind-blowing. Wisdom, as a rule, is measuredness, smoothness and calmness in everything. However, if your wise man is dressed in orange jeans and his hair is dyed viscous blue, then I wouldn’t be surprised at all. Because your wise person can be anything you want. He may have a beard or no beard, he may be a woman or a man. This person may be aged or, on the contrary, very young. If only it satisfied one thing important rule: The appearance of this person fully corresponds to your idea of wisdom and enlightenment.

It may take you several hours to create a wise person. Do not regret it, it will bring you great benefits, which can then be calculated in months and years, if we are talking about the time we spend searching for this or that solution. It is best if no one disturbs you during these hours, and you can be alone with yourself, alone with your wise man. If you have found such an opportunity, you can proceed directly to performing the technique.

Step number one. You will need a pen and a piece of paper. Prepare all this and then try to relax. You don’t need to do anything, you can sit quietly in a chair or even lie down. You will need to remember something from your past experiences, and this will be easy, since you will have to remember pleasant things. Please remember several cases in your life when you found a way out of a difficult situation. They can be anything, take the most obvious ones that come to your mind. How did you feel in those moments when you broke the vicious circle, when the situation was successfully resolved? Also tell yourself your role and merit: what exactly did you come up with so that everything fell into place? As soon as you remember it and say it, mentally put a tick or cross, as people do when winding a thread around their hand or drawing signs on the palm of their hand to remember it - and follow on to another case with a similar result. Your task is to remember five (or more) such cases and mentally put crosses: they say, we remembered, we remember. Once everything is ready, write it all down on a piece of paper. Formulate something like this: “I did this and that, and my problem was successfully resolved.” Or: “I came up with such and such, and after that everything fell into place.”

Step two. There are different types wise people, and for each person they can be very different. Some people are convinced by a beard, others by horn-rimmed glasses. The mind can be emphasized by certain clothes, age, or the presence of some details. Knowing this, fantasize about what he is like - your wise man? What would he look like if you met him? How would he be dressed? Perhaps he even reminds you of someone? What would his voice sound like? Fantasize boldly, freely, listen to your feelings. You can make notes on a piece of paper, recording its most important features or qualities. You can draw it if you know how to draw at least a little. You should also determine a meeting place with your wise man. Perhaps it will be a quiet darkened office, or a hot desert, or autumn forest. If you can't imagine something, just think about what it would look like if you could do it. Thank God it's easy to think about what people or things might look like. It's easy to think about what your wise man will look like.

At the end of the second step, you will have a complete picture of your wise man. You will also know the place of your meeting with him: a place that you can always either imagine or think about him so that it fills your attention. You can also describe a wise person on paper. Do not mince words, describe it in as much detail as possible.

Step three. Once you can imagine your wise man whenever you need it (just close your eyes and go to him, or let him come to you, or he will just appear in front of you as soon as you think about it), come back to your list of those cases and situations in which you found good decision and got out safely, and add one more such situation to this list. This will be easy, since we find a lot of similar solutions in our lives. Repeat everything exactly the same way: remember what good decision you come up with how you felt immediately after the situation was discharged, put a mental cross, as in previous cases, and then add this case to the list.

Step four. After completing step number three, try to relax again: lean back in your chair or lie down. Close your eyes and think about the difficult situation that exists in the present time. Focus on it for a moment, that will be enough. After this, meet with your wise man, and as soon as he appears in front of you, ask him one question: what should you do in this situation?

Once you ask your wise man a question, you will receive an answer instantly. It can be of any property: memory, image, picture, voice, phrase, and any other. Think about what you have received. You can write it down, draw it, or say it out loud. You have received some important information that answers your question. All you have to do is understand what the wise man wanted to say by giving you this information.

In the future, when you meet again with a wise person, you can agree with him on ways to exchange information. You can find out what his name is, and for this you just need to ask him about it. You can also hear his voice, and then when you ask your questions, you will just have to listen to what he has to say. It may be that when you meet, you don’t hear a voice, but you have thoughts that answer your questions. These are the answers of your wise man. Don't forget to thank him for meeting with you and trying to help you.

There are no restrictions for meeting a wise person. You can contact him for help at any time you see fit. After each meeting with him, also pay attention to the dream you had. In a dream, you can receive very important information that will help you make the right decision. Good luck to you! And thanks to your wise man, whom you will meet in the very near future. Thanks to him for listening to all this carefully.