Is it possible to light wedding candles at home? A strong love spell on two twisted candles. What are they for?

Candles are an important attribute of a wedding. After using them in a sacrament, they are advised to keep them for life. It is a symbol of love, harmony, tenderness and mutual understanding, as well as a kind of amulet against family troubles.

When the newlyweds stand in front of the altar, the priest blesses the newlyweds three times. They overshadow themselves sign of the cross. After this, the priest hands them a lighted candle.

Important! It is believed that married spouses are united after death in heaven and never separate again.

The attributes will remain lit throughout the ritual. They are a spiritual symbol of the sacrament and mean God's grace, confirm the spiritual chastity of those getting married and their sincere desire to get married. Fire symbolizes the sincerity and fervor of prayer for a prosperous family life.

How to choose wedding dresses?

The wedding ceremony takes from 45 minutes to an hour, so you need to choose candles that are long, but not too wide so that they are comfortable to hold.

It would be good if the candles had special handles and saucers. Then the dripping wax will not burn your hands or ruin your clothes. Fabrics are also used lace napkins, handkerchiefs and potholders.

The traditional color of candles is white. Golden or pink shades are allowed.

Products can be either simple, without decoration, or decorated. For decoration use chains, bugles, lace, ribbons, polymer clay, fabric, etc. Decorative elements should be paired, for example, two hearts, two rings.

Can be purchased finished goods in a church shop, or you can make them yourself from wax or paraffin. Items made with your own hands or purchased outside of the church must first be consecrated. It is better not to buy them secondhand, as there is a high risk of receiving low-quality products.

They do not take other people’s wedding attributes for the sacrament., even if the people who offer them have lived their whole lives in happy marriage. Moreover, the priests say that there is nothing wrong with this, but the candles are a sacrifice in favor of the church, so it is better to buy them in the temple where the ceremony will be held.

Signs

In the old days in Rus', candles weighed more than a pound, and they were held not by the newlyweds, but by special people - “candlemakers”. On the first night, such a block was lit and placed near the newlyweds’ bed. There was a belief that this brings happiness and healthy children.

If during the flame burns evenly– the family life of the newlyweds will be calm and happy;
Crackling, soot while burning candles– to a life filled with troubles, troubles and problems;
Which wedding party holds the candle higher?, he will become the head of the family;
Bad omen - flame extinguished during the ritual. This foreshadows the premature death of one of the spouses;
One of those getting married Whose candle burns longer?, will live longer. If the candles burn out at the same time, then the spouses will live equally long and spend their lives together. Therefore, after the end of the ritual, it is recommended to extinguish the flame simultaneously.

It is believed that ritual candles help during childbirth, and they can also alleviate the pain of the patient, protect against lightning and even fire. There is a belief that with the help of wedding items and magic you can both divorce spouses and promote their reconciliation.

Important! Priests do not advise attributing mystical powers to these attributes and taking signs too seriously. Superstitions distort the idea of the true purpose of these objects.

What to do after the ceremony?

It is best to keep them next to the one with which the young were blessed. You can place them in candlesticks next to it, you can wrap them in cloth or put icons under glass to prevent dust from sticking. Any other images of saints will do. It is allowed to be stored in a box where other shrines are stored - a baptismal shirt, incense, holy water. It is possible to simply store it in a secluded, pious place. Care must be taken to ensure that small children and pets do not have access to the candles.

If the husband and wife do divorce, candles should be burned in front of the icons, preferably in a church. At the same time, you must sincerely ask for the health and well-being of your ex-spouse, no matter how strong the grievances against each other. In the event of the death of one of the spouses, it is also recommended to burn candles in the church or place one of them in the coffin of the deceased. You can also leave a candle as a keepsake.

When do they light it?

These attributes are endowed with the power of prayer, so they should be lit when there are difficulties in the family, for example, a child gets sick, or the spouses have a serious quarrel. They are lit with words of gratitude to God and when there is a joyful event in the house, as well as on a wedding anniversary. They will help if you need to pray for loved ones, and when spouses are forced to separate.

If the spark plugs break, no big deal. You can “attach” them again with tape or light small pieces.

Important! It doesn't matter whether you light one candle or both. Spouses after the wedding are a single whole, which means these attributes belong to both of them.

Useful video

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Conclusion

If wedding candles for some reason were lost or damaged, do not be too upset. This should not affect the quality of family life, because happiness depends on love and respect for each other.

THE SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE.

Why is a wedding necessary when getting married?
In Christianity, the family is called the “small church.” From this point of view, relationships within the family are seen as not just everyday, everyday ones. The family is a Christian mystery, and it is not without reason that it begins with the Sacrament of Marriage; it exists by the grace of this Sacrament and draws strength from it.
In the Sacrament of Marriage, the Church blesses the bride and groom to live together, to give birth and raise children. The bride and groom must promise God that they will be faithful to each other throughout their lives.
After the priest three times pronounces the mystical words: Lord our God, I crown (them) with glory and honor and blesses the bride and groom, they become husband and wife. From now on they are no longer two different people, but “one flesh”, which no man can and should not try to separate or destroy. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder, we read in the Gospel (Matthew 19:6). Separation of spouses is a sin not only before the children who were born to them, but also before God and His Church
What does the Church say about the responsibilities of spouses?
The Church of Christ offers in the apostolic reading prescribed for marriage the true teaching about the mutual duties of husband and wife. The marriage union, according to the word of God, is a great mystery (Eph. 5:32): it reflects the spiritually grace-filled union of Christ the Savior and His Church.
A husband must love his wife as Christ loves the Church: love unfailingly until the end of his life, love until he is ready to suffer and die for her. A wife, along with love for her husband, must have obedience. Although, according to the teachings of the Church, the husband is given power, his primacy is not an advantage, but a duty.
Such love is able to endure all the hardships in life, is able to make amends for the dissimilarity of characters, the difference in external qualities, and various shortcomings.
“It is difficult to stand alone in a strong and saving union. The threads of nature are torn, but grace is irresistible. Arrogance is dangerous everywhere, especially here. Therefore, humbly, with fasting and prayer, approach the Sacrament,” St. Theophan the Recluse advised those intending to get married.
How to adequately prepare for the Sacrament?
On the wedding day, it is customary to serve a prayer service to the Lord Jesus Christ for the blessing of a good deed. Parents bless those preparing to get married: the groom with an icon of the Savior, the bride with an icon of the Mother of God.
On the wedding day, the bride and groom confess, pray during the liturgy and partake of the Holy Mysteries of Christ.
Is it necessary to get married after registration?
Since a church wedding is a Sacrament in which the power of Divine grace operates, and not just a beautiful ceremony, those entering into marriage must treat it consciously and responsibly. Based on this, the Church considers it necessary to make sure of the seriousness of the intentions of those entering into marriage and currently performs the sacrament of marriage only after the marriage is registered in the registry office. If registration and wedding are separated by some period of time, then before the ceremony church marriage one should abstain from marital relations.
Does the Church recognize civil marriage?
The Russian Orthodox Church considers a marriage performed through state registration to be valid (although not sufficient for spouses professing the Orthodox faith) and treats it with respect. If we are talking about a relationship that is not secured by any state act, then the Church identifies these completely irresponsible relationships as prodigal cohabitation and considers them sinful.
Is it possible for spouses who have been married for a long time, registered in the registry office, but are not married, to get married?
The Church never refuses the grace of the Sacrament, even if the spouses are of advanced age. Often they take the meaning of the Sacrament more seriously, prepare for it more responsibly and make the decision to get married after a serious period: reviewing their lives, acquiring true faith and joining the church.
Does the Church allow a second marriage?
The Orthodox Church considers a marriage entered into in the Church to be fundamentally indissoluble. Only adultery (violation of marital fidelity) is a complete canonical basis for the dissolution of a church marriage, because adultery effectively destroys a marriage. It should be remembered, however, that this dissolution is not a “debunking,” that is, a sacred rite opposite to a wedding, but only a recognition of the fact of the destruction of the marriage.
The dissolution of a church marriage is the prerogative of the church court, which is headed by the diocesan bishop. Only after this the Church blesses the innocent spouse to enter into a second marriage.
Second marriages are allowed by the Church only out of leniency towards human weaknesses, which is why prayers of repentance are added to the order for second marriages.
What should you do with wedding candles after the wedding?
Pious Russian custom involves careful storage of wedding candles as memories of the Sacrament of Marriage. Sometimes they are placed in the icon case, which they received as a blessing from their parents for marriage. Wedding candles can be lit briefly during times of separation from a spouse or marital discord. The flame of a wedding candle will remind a spouse who has forgotten about love how happy he was on his wedding day, and will remind him of the need to preserve his family with all his might. According to ancient Russian custom, wedding candles are placed in the coffin of the spouse who died last.
It should be remembered: the wedding is not performed
- during all four multi-day fasts;
- during Cheese Week (Maslenitsa);
- on Bright (Easter) Week;
- from the Nativity of Christ (January 7) to Epiphany (January 19);
- on the eve of the twelve holidays;
- on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays throughout the year;
- September 10, 11, 26 and 27 in connection with strict fasting for the Beheading of John the Baptist and the Exaltation of the Cross of the Lord);
- on the eve of patronal church days (each church has its own).

I have a question for you. How you can influence your husband with the help of wedding candles or prayers (and what prayers). My husband and I have been married for 6 years, we are married, our families are very religious people. I was his faithful wife, a year ago he cheated on me, I forgave him, but the problem is that he filed for divorce (threatening me) because he wants to leave me for that girl. But I love him very much and I want to live only with him, I see from him that he also hesitates, we have been struggling for a year now. I suspect that she somehow bewitched him, he loved me very much, and now he leaves and cries. This means that there is still something left for me... How can I help our falling apart family, if I really want to save it, no matter what... Please tell me.
Victoria.

Hello, Victoria. Indeed, in these damned days it is becoming increasingly difficult to keep a family together. Corruption and decline in morals reach the point that I cannot stop crimes against the closest, dearest and dearest people.
It is impossible to influence a husband with the help of wedding candles, because actions with objects consecrated during the sacrament of Wedding (candles, footstool, other objects) is a witchcraft practice and is blasphemous for Orthodox Christian not acceptable.
Wedding candles are a family shrine. Pious custom involves careful storage of wedding candles as memories of the Sacrament of Marriage. Sometimes they are placed in the icon case, which they received as a blessing from their parents for marriage. Wedding candles can be lit briefly during times of separation or marital discord. You just need to remember that their kindling has power only under the condition of fervent prayer to God for your lost loved ones.
We must also remember that a person errs not always because of his malice or hardness of heart, but because of the loss of moral guidelines, which are based on the Gospel commandments. Then he might be an easy target evil people, a mockery for the devil.
The Divine Commandment says that only selfless love leads to happiness: “live in love, as Christ loved us... fornication and all uncleanness and covetousness should not even be mentioned among you... Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her "(Eph. 5.2, 3, 25). We just need to believe that there is a solid wall that protects us from everyday troubles and the eternal destruction of the soul, that the yoke of Christ’s commandments is good and easy.
One rather smart person recently told me: “I have a wife, a child, I love them very much, I take care of them, but I am lost. This is a pain that cannot be compared with physical pain. If I were a believer, how easy it would be for me to resolve this situation.”
It is customary to pray to the Holy Martyrs Gury, Samon and Aviv to protect the family from all misfortunes. They are known among Orthodox Christians as patrons of matrimony, marriage, happy family, they pray to them “if the husband innocently hates his wife.”
And you, pious wives and children, save your souls with patience, because only “he who endures to the end will be saved” (Matthew 24:13).

Hieromonk Seraphim (Kalugin), Astrakhan, answers readers' questions.

The Divine Commandment says that only selfless love leads to happiness: “live in love, as Christ loved us... fornication and all uncleanness and covetousness should not even be mentioned among you... Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her "(Eph. 5.2, 3, 25). We just need to believe that there is a solid wall that protects us from everyday troubles and the eternal destruction of the soul, that the yoke of Christ’s commandments is good and easy.
One rather smart person recently told me: “I have a wife, a child, I love them very much, I take care of them, but I am lost. This is a pain that cannot be compared with physical pain. If I were a believer, how easy it would be for me to resolve this situation.”
It is customary to pray to the Holy Martyrs Gury, Samon and Aviv to protect the family from all misfortunes. They are known among Orthodox Christians as the patrons of marriage, marriage, and a happy family; they are prayed to “if a husband innocently hates his wife.”
And you, pious wives and children, save your souls with patience, because only “he who endures to the end will be saved” (Matthew 24:13).

So that the wedding ceremony is remembered only positive emotions, it is important to prepare for it in advance.

Of course, the most important thing is the spiritual component of the sacrament, but we cannot forget about the wedding attributes that will be needed in the church.

Making a list necessary purchases – best way don't miss anything.

It’s a good idea to find out in advance what kind of donation is made into the church fund after the ceremony where you decide to get married.

What you need to buy

Wedding candles

Which ones are better to choose?

Candles are sold in the church shop: you can buy them there on the day of the celebration or in advance.

Candles of a certain design can be found in online stores: from the most ordinary wax candles to products of various colors, shapes and sizes, decorated with small bouquets, patterned modeling, ribbons, rings, hand or factory painting, glitter (sparkles), decals (images with paper base), in a package or with candlesticks, etc. Their choice is a matter of taste, the main thing is that they are wedding candles.

What are they for?

Wedding candles are obligatory “participants” wedding ceremony. This is a sign of the joy that lovers experience from meeting each other. The candles burning in the hands of the newlyweds embody the chastity of the newlyweds, the fiery and pure mutual love that they must nourish from now on, as well as the abiding grace of God.

After the sacrament candles remain with the newlyweds. They should be kept at home near icons or in another secluded pious place and the symbol of marriage should be lit in connection with some important and joyful events, on marriage anniversaries or, conversely, if difficult times come. There is a belief that wedding candles can ease difficult childbirth.

How much do they cost
On average, a set of candles costs from 300 to 1000 rubles.

Handkerchiefs for candles

Which ones are better to choose?

First of all, they should be white or light colors. These can be handkerchiefs or fabric napkins, with lace, embroidery or simpler ones. You can often buy specially made pot holders in church shops.

What are they for?

The tradition of covering the hands with a scarf has been around for centuries. But this is done more for practical reasons - so that they do not get dirty and burnt with wax.

How much do they cost
The cost of special potholders is approximately 800–1000 rubles. Regular handkerchiefs or cloth napkins are much cheaper.

What icons are needed for a wedding?

Which ones are better to choose?

These should be the faces of the Savior and the Mother of God - separately or in the form of a folding icon, that is, a folding icon made of two parts. The choice of such icons, it turns out, is also varied. They differ in size (from 7×12 and larger), shape (arched or rectangular), design (in a plastic, wooden or other frame; brass, metallized, gold-plated, etc.; with embossing, silk-screen printing, enamel, velvet; in a case and without it, etc.).

What are they for?

With their help, the priest blesses the bride and groom. In former times, images were brought from the parental home and so passed down a home shrine from generation to generation .

Nowadays, icons of the Savior and the Mother of God are purchased in advance by the parents of the newlyweds in the church shop and given to the priest before the start of the ceremony. If the parents do not participate in the marriage, the young people do it themselves.

How much do they cost
The price range is quite wide. The cost depends on the size and materials and ranges from 50 to 20,000 rubles.

Wedding towel – “foot”

Which one is better to choose?

The towel on which the newlyweds will ascend at the altar should be white or pink.

In the past, the bride and groom could only kneel down; nowadays, they usually stand on a towel with their feet, so there is a belief that there is no need to choose a towel with the image of rings or a pair of birds as a wedding towel: it is better to opt for a geometric pattern or floral ornament around the edges. And the center of the canvas - the symbolic place of God - must be “clean”.

A towel with hemstitching or lace is not suitable for marriage: they deprive family life integrity. The canvas should not be interrupted just as it should not be interrupted life together spouses.

What is it for?

This attribute of the wedding ceremony is a symbol of unity and purity of married life. It is spread out near the lectern and serves as a footstool for the bride and groom; on it, the young, as if on a cloud, ascend to the Kingdom of Heaven to bless their marriage.

After the ceremony, the towel most often remains with the newlyweds: it is kept in the family as a memory and decorates the house on anniversaries and anniversaries.

What is the price
A wedding towel with embroidery costs on average from 500 to 2000 rubles, a simple towel costs less.

What rings are needed for a wedding?

Which ones are better to choose?

Traditionally, the bride and groom's rings should be made of different precious metals: his - gold, hers - silver (then the young couple will exchange them during the sacrament). This difference is symbolic.

Nowadays, this rule is not always observed, and wedding rings can even be precious stones. Therefore, the choice of jewelry completely depends on the taste and financial capabilities of the groom: according to tradition, it is he who should buy the rings - preferably on the same day and in the same place.

What are they for?

Rings are the central attribute of engagement. Before the ceremony begins, they lie on the holy throne on the right - in front of the face of Jesus Christ. Thus, by touching the holy throne, they receive the power of sanctification and the ability to bring God’s blessing to the newlyweds. And the fact that the rings lie next to each other means mutual love and spiritual unity of the bride and groom.

This is a multi-valued symbol. Firstly, a sign of the indissolubility, limitlessness and eternity of the marriage union. Secondly, the embodiment of the sun, to which the husband is likened; silver represents the moon - a smaller luminary that emits light reflected from the sun.

The actions performed with the rings during the sacrament also have important sacred meaning. Thus, the exchange of jewelry speaks of love and willingness to sacrifice everything and help throughout life - on the part of the groom, and of love and devotion, readiness to accept this help throughout life - on the part of the bride.

How much do they cost
Price wedding rings will depend on the metal from which they are made (you should not choose a combination of metals, as this is considered bad omen) and the presence or absence of precious stones.

Wedding set

Which one is better to choose?

The range of wedding sets today is also very wide. They differ in the number of items, style and cost. The set usually includes a towel, towels, napkins for wedding rings, and potholders for candles.

What is it for?

Purchasing a wedding set will save the bride and groom from having to purchase all textile wedding accessories separately, selecting them by color and design, and will save them valuable time .

What is the price
On average, a set of 4 items costs 1000–2000 rubles, and of 7 – 3000–5000 rubles.

Red wine

Which one is better to choose?

Traditionally, red fortified wines are purchased as a drink for the “cup of fellowship” ritual. "Cahors" or "Sherry" .

What is it for?

The red wine offered by the priest to the young is a symbol of their true love: the fresh water of their true feelings should turn into a strong drink from year to year.

What is the price
A bottle of good Cahors or Spanish sherry can cost from 700 to 7000 rubles.

What else should you take to church?

In addition to everything listed above, newlyweds should take with them the following documents and items:

Passports .
Marriage certificate(except for those rare cases when the wedding - in agreement with the priest - precedes registration with the registry office).
Pectoral crosses(they should hang around your neck).

How much does a church wedding cost?

A similar question interests everyone who is preparing to go to the altar, but it sounds completely wrong.
It is important to understand: the sacrament of wedding itself does not and cannot have any monetary value, that is, it is carried out absolutely free.

Exists ancient custom after the ceremony leave a donation at church. Previously, young people were supposed to bring freshly baked bread wrapped in a linen towel to the temple as a sign of gratitude.

Today, the gratitude of young people is more often expressed in monetary terms - as much as they can. There are, of course, some approximate limits (from 500 to 1500 rubles).

It is better to clarify such a delicate point with your priest: accepted The size of the donation may depend on settlement, specific church, positions of local clergy, etc.

Everyone’s financial situation is different, and sometimes newlyweds are not able to make a large donation for the sacrament. In any church they will treat this with understanding: after explaining the situation to the priest, the young people can leave an amount feasible for them.