How to change your life for the better. Let's not forget our feelings. How to change yourself for the better: conclusions

At one fine moment in my life, I realized that something was missing in me: it seems that you live, but something is not right and wrong. I looked at myself from the outside and in the mirror, went through one strong training on my own, read a couple of developing books. I made disappointing conclusions that I have a bunch of bad habits, I hardly devote time to my health, I'm not popular with girls, my level of disorganization goes off scale, and besides, I often get away from solving complex life tasks.

It doesn't matter how many days are in your life, what matters is how much life is in your days!

Sport

It all starts with its implementation in your life. We start with basic exercises, but they must be performed every day. it simple exercises: squats, on the press (lifting the torso), push-ups. It all starts with a repetition of 5 times and every day increases by 1 time, you can perform two visits per day. In a month, you will squat 35 times, do ab exercises 35 times, and do push-ups 35 times. Then you can increase the number of repetitions as needed, but be sure to do it every day.

Each person needs to find his own sport, and you should not be led by fashion: everyone runs, which means running, everyone does yoga, which means yoga. Look for your sport that will suit you completely: loads, interest, time, financial component, people. It should be an extension of your essence.

I tried for a year, gym, boxing, running, jiu-jitsu, aikido, cycling. At the same time, he was engaged in several types for several months. It was a great time, because it was an absolute benefit for my health, and I also understood more and more what exactly I want from sports.

My choice fell on jiu-jitsu and swimming is the basis of my sports development. Now this is for life, because the pleasure that I get in the classroom is difficult to put into words, and my success in this field only reinforces this conviction.

Books

You will have to read a lot. Excellent result- This is 40-50 books per year. I have read 42 books and I understand that 50 books a year is realistic. The main thing is to read without stopping. And, of course, do not watch TV and do not stay too long on social networks.

Read only to develop your mind: psychology, Russian and foreign classics, self-development, finance - no tabloid or entertaining books.

Outline the essence of what you read, what impressed or disliked the book, memorize quotes. So you train your memory and you can always surprise your interlocutors with smart sayings from books.

Ayn Rand's book Atlas Shrugged greatly influenced me with its fundamental nature and strong dialogues, as well as situations similar to events in my life.

My morality, the morality of reason, is contained in one axiom: reality exists in one choice - to live. Everything else flows from here. To live, a person must consider three things as the highest and decisive values: Reason, Purpose, Self-Respect. Reason as the only tool of knowledge, Goal as the choice of happiness, which this tool should achieve, Self-respect as an indestructible confidence that he is able to think and his personality is worthy of happiness, which means worthy of life. These three values require all the virtues of man, and all his virtues are connected with the relation of existence and consciousness: rationality, independence, purity, honesty, justice, efficiency, pride.
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Discipline

What distinguishes a strong personality from an ordinary person is this. Regardless of your mood, motivation, external circumstances, kinship relationships to fulfill what is necessary in this moment time.

Learn to swim against the current of life circumstances, educate yourself so that the internal state does not depend on what is happening around. It was very hard and not everything worked out right away, as there were breakdowns. But I went forward again and again with the support of loved ones and an inner desire to go this way at all costs.

Where can you start? From the morning ritual. Here is the simplest effective method to hone discipline: get up immediately at the wake of the alarm, wash your face, turn on the music, do exercises with strength exercises, then a contrast shower, a healthy breakfast (without fried and sweet) and reading a book (you can on the way to the office).

So you need to do until you can do it automatically and without forcing yourself. It took me 3 months, sometimes, of course, there were failures, especially after overloaded days. I recommend to anyone who wants to change their lifestyle to develop their own morning ritual.

We must learn to control ourselves: our speech, gait, gaze and gestures. Wherever you are, at home, at work, in the gym, you should radiate confidence and act without too much fuss. Remember the principle feedback: even if you don’t feel like that, this feeling of confidence and discipline will come.

Highly useful exercise for the development of inner strength - despite all your natural fears, do not look away from the interlocutor, from the people passing by who look into your eyes. Frankly, martial arts helped me in this. But it is also good to look with a warm look, showing that you are benevolent.

To educate myself, I learned to deny myself pleasures: bars, alcohol, sweets, cigarettes, impulsive shopping, idleness, empty talk at work. This may not happen right away, but we need to think about it all the time, work in this direction. And one day I said to myself: “Yes, I haven’t had alcohol for three months and I haven’t eaten sweets for two months.”

I attended sports classes or courses despite my mood, circumstances, weather and my motivation. Set a schedule and stick to it, discard all your favorite excuses. I liked coming to the hall when something was stopping others and when there were like-minded people who were ready to support me in these endeavors.

And most importantly - you need to learn to control yourself when little is working out, and a mess is going on around. Be an island of calm and cold endurance.

Finance

Keep a financial journal. Lead it for a month, second, third and do not stop. And do not just keep it, but analyze every month what goes where, why and how to fix it.

I had big expenses for coffee - 1,300 rubles a month. I realized that it was time to reduce its amount, and now the level of spending on coffee is 600 rubles per month. Coffee is my weakness that I don't want to get rid of.

Many say that a magazine is a useless thing: "I already know how much I spend and earn." And you try to keep it for 1 year with accurate analysis and graphs and you will see the whole picture of your financial literacy or illiteracy.

Keep yourself in financial asceticism, stop buying what you don’t need or is imposed by advertising and acquaintances. Most of our purchases are useless and will not be useful in life, and it is quite easy to do without them.

Find additional income, even if it is small, but it will motivate you to achieve even greater achievements. Let it be an increased workload at work, additional work (of any format), freelancing, selling unnecessary things, teaching other people. The mistake of the majority - everyone wants a lot of money at the initial stages, but this does not happen. You do not immediately earn a lot at work, and in life everything is gradual.

Relations

This point is more about men who have not found their soul mate or even do not want to, which I was. If you are alone and have a lot of time, develop the skill of meeting girls. Register on dating sites, meet in cafes and on the street, chat in the gym, ask friends about girls you know.

Try different communication strategies: gentleman, macho, modest, sports guy. Meet girls smarter than you, admit it, conquer them.

In various situations, not everything will work out: wrong words, wrong method, not your person, failures in bed. But you do not stop, it should temper you.

And over time, you will learn to understand the opposite sex, learn how to easily start a conversation, make beautiful compliments. Girls will often reciprocate, they will feel an interesting personality in you. But do not be self-confident, look for the one who will appreciate your qualities "without cuts", and be faithful and faithful to her.

If it's simple - love, suffer, conquer, disperse and start anew. Become the one with whom you want to spend time, with whom you will be comfortable in any situation, be able to understand and listen to the other person. And remember that your significant other can always leave you, so enjoy every moment together.

Skills

Start developing skills you didn't have before, such as breaststroke, typing, contextual planning, emergency driving. Master them, find a mentor on the topic, get training. Such achievements develop the personality, make it multifaceted.

You will also learn how to deliberately step out of your comfort zone and overcome fear, which will later become your driving force. All great achievements begin with small victories over yourself.

In the past 12 months, I have been doing things I have never done before: heavy weight training, meditation, training with children, training, austerity.

Spirituality

Determine your values in life, create for yourself internal and social rules find your "I".

Finally, find the answer to the eternal question: “Why am I here? What is my mission?

How? Ask yourself important questions, do not look at other people who are drifting like a boat in the ocean, become a guide both for yourself and for others. Read spiritual books, visit spiritual places and, finally, create your own picture of the world order. This is very important, so you will become steadfast and you will have your own faith. Not the one that is shown in the media, but its own inner one.

Most people are afraid to ask themselves difficult questions and close themselves with materialism, like I did in my time, but this is a dead end branch of development. Things and household fuss cannot be closed, they will not give you the happiness that you will feel when you find something important inside that will lead you further.

Good Habits

As you get rid of bad habits and change structurally, you will need other habits - and it is better that they are useful.

For example, if you talk a lot, learn to be silent and listen to the interlocutor, even when your tongue is itching - be silent.

If you eat a lot of sweets, replace it with nuts or dried fruits, do not eat so much chocolate and cookies, drinking sweet tea.

Books are a great rescue from TV and Internet addiction. It's just that the brain doesn't want to "thin" anymore.

If you have nothing planned and everything happens just like that, start a notebook, write down all your tasks for the day, week, month. Write down the thoughts that come to you, fresh ideas, describe events and people. Keep track and analyze your life.

If you smoke, quit and immediately hit a sport, preferably one where the lungs work the most to expel all the resins from yourself.

Algorithm for structural change in 12 months

Sports load every day. Decide on your sport for a long time, do it, no matter what, for a whole year.
Read a lot of books, 3-4 per month. Write down a summary of what you read.
Develop discipline. Deny yourself pleasure. Stay calm when it's stormy. Try to deny yourself something every month.
Develop financial literacy. Keep a financial journal and find extra income throughout the year.
If you are single - look for your soul mate and develop the skill of seduction. If you are not alone, fall in love again with your chosen one.
Learn new skills you didn't know before. Desirable - 1 skill in 2 months.
Find an answer for what you are here for, even an approximate one - it will already be good. Spend as much time on this as you see fit.
Get good habits instead of bad ones. This is everyday work.

Victory over yourself is the true success in life.

Change is difficult, but possible. The main thing is to want to set yourself interesting (and not so) goals and achieve them, no matter what. Everything will not work right away, there will be misfires, breakdowns, but the movement vector must be maintained, and you will definitely break through the barrier of your weakness.

If you think that this requires motivation or money, you are mistaken: you only need one pure desire to become better than you are, and time, which is already so small in our lives. But remember, there is no limit to perfection, this permanent job over you, and it continues until the end of your days. A developed personality lives much happier than those who are weak in front of themselves and recede before life circumstances.

Each person does as he sees fit. We have our inner beliefs, which we express through actions. We manifest them outwardly, because we cannot do otherwise. What leads to poverty, overweight, frustration, loss of friends, hides deep inside a person.

Remember how many promises you made to yourself throughout your life. They said, for example, that you would not be rude, raise your voice at people, smoke, drink, eat fatty foods after six in the evening. But already at eleven at night, you are sitting in the kitchen and eating cake, despite your promise.

Due to the fact that we have no idea how to change internally, we often begin to make mistakes and complicate the situation. We get angry at ourselves for our lack of willpower and constantly blame ourselves for mistakes and failures. Stop blaming yourself and say, "Now I am free. I have a goal to become a self-sufficient person, succeeding in everything I want. I deserve to be happy, and accept it as a gift."

Many of us think that they are absolutely helpless in this life and lose interest in everything, seeing around them only loneliness and hopelessness. Such hopelessness arises from many disappointments, pain and resentment, leading to an unwillingness to live. full life. Stop! Ask yourself what is the reason for such disappointment, what makes you so angry. The more anger you pour into this world, the more angry you become. Think about it, you were angry, perhaps even at the moment of reading the previous paragraph. You must understand how to change better side. And we will help you.

The beginning of change

Decide for yourself that you want to turn your life in a different direction. Do not doubt, each person has enough strength in himself to understand for himself how to change both externally and internally. It is necessary to change your worldview, train of thought, overcome stubbornness, and then changes will come.

Exercises

You do not yet know how you can change, but you already have this desire inside you. Tell yourself that you want to get better, and more than once, repeat it at every opportunity. Believe in change and it will definitely happen. What you think is impossible to change in you, you need to change first. By repeating the phrase: "I want to become different," you turn on the Power of the Universe to help you.

Take a look in the mirror when you say to yourself "I want to be different", listen to your feelings. If you feel contradictions, do not despair and do not blame yourself, because it is very difficult to change quickly. Try to figure out exactly what thought makes you doubt. Dissolve it. Then, go back to the mirror and say something nice about yourself. This kind of eye contact with yourself should definitely help.

How much to change and start new life? Change your beliefs, your thoughts. If a negative thought persists, catch yourself in it and drive it away once and for all. It is possible, we can control every thought.

Principles of working on yourself:

Mind control.
The desire to change yourself.
Forgiveness of all offenses.

After deciding to start a change, you need to learn how to control your mind. You can use it as you wish, it is your tool, subject to your desire. And not vice versa. Think about it. To find harmony, control the thoughts, words that you pronounce, since they have incredible power and create all the situations in your life. But, in fact, you are the master of your mind.

Leave the past in the past

I have been working as a psychologist for many years and have heard from my patients more than once that the sad past prevents them from being happy in the present, where they were offended, injured, wounded in the heart. Now they have lost all the values and meaning of life, they cannot forget the events from the past, they cannot love, they cannot forgive. And if they forgot and forgave, their life would again show its charms.

Treat all events from the past as memories without emotional evaluation. Forgive everyone who has ever harmed you and you will find the answers to right questions. The most important thing is love. Only true love can change us radically. Love for others, love for the world. But without forgiveness, she doesn't come.

An exercise to deal with resentment

Being in silence, imagine in front of you a small stage of a semi-dark theater, on which stands the person who offended you. Whether he is alive or not, you need to conquer your hatred. Mentally imagine that good things happen to him, he is really happy. Remember his image like this. Then take the stage yourself. You smile too, because there is enough goodness in the world for everyone. This simple exercise will dissolve your resentment if you learn how to do it correctly. Work on yourself, get to know yourself as deeply as possible, and the world will change with you for the better, giving you the opportunity to find true happiness.

35 296 1 Have you ever thought that our life is made up of habits? But it really is. We get up every morning and wash, brush our teeth, have breakfast, go to work, and these are the real habits that have become a need. What about ?! O! Already more difficult. It is necessary to overcome yourself.

Throughout life, a person constantly acquires new habits, and also gets rid of unnecessary ones. But sometimes, you just realize that you urgently need to change something in your life. So why not start now. After all, if you follow certain rules for 21 days, then we can say that you will lay the foundation for change. Now we will talk about how to change yourself and how to develop new habits in 21 days.

What is a habit?

Before you get used to doing any specific actions, you need to figure out what the word “habit” actually means.

Habit – this is a certain model of behavior of an individual (human), the implementation of which develops into a need.

Simply put, a habit is an action that a person performs automatically without thinking about it. The emotional, psychological and physical state of the body depends on its implementation.

Our habits are at the core of our character. Therefore, there is no need to look for the guilty. It's always easy to do. But changing yourself, your attitude is difficult. Change yourself and you will notice how people around you change, how situations change and new opportunities appear.

What are the habits?

At first glance, a habit is a fairly simple concept, but even it is divided into 2 types. Habits are good and bad.

Harmful very easily acquired almost automatically.
Useful habits require overcoming the psychological and physical barriers of a person. Without certain settings, it is difficult to turn any action into a habit.

What do habit and reflex have in common?

A well-chosen habit becomes a reflex that forces the body to rebuild itself. Such an experiment was carried out. A volunteer who liked to be different from other people decided to change his biorhythms and sleep during the day and stay awake at night. For 21 days he rested during daylight hours and worked at night. After the habit had developed, he decided one day not to sleep during the day. By evening he was sleepy and lethargic, but with the onset of night, he felt alert and active again. This proves that habits are part of reflexes. That is, under certain circumstances, the body ignores the installation and performs the usual actions.

Become happy in 21 days - a fashionable flash mob

Developing habits is not only useful, but also fashionable. A few years ago, such an intercontinental flash mob was popular. Everyone who wished could take part in it. Each participant wore a purple bracelet around their wrist, after which they were not allowed to complain about anything for 21 days. If vague thoughts still visited him, he had to remove the bracelet and put it on the other hand, after which the experiment would start over.

The purpose of this action was to teach people to be optimists and stop complaining about life. Project participants noted that the flash mob helped them change for the better. They began to look at life differently, and the experiment allowed them to become happy in 21 days.

How the 21 day rule works

Every day, millions of people try to develop a wide variety of skills in themselves, but not everyone succeeds. Psychologists have deduced one simple rule, which, in their opinion, helps to achieve the desired goal.

If we repeat the same action every day for 21 days, it is fixed in the subconscious, and we begin to do it unconsciously, i.e. automatically. Bringing to automatism - that's our goal.

Experts in the field of psychology argue that daily work during this particular period lays in the subconscious mind the installation, thanks to which the habit is developed.

Habit transforms into need over time. How? Consider interesting example. Parents force a small child to relieve himself in a designated place. Over time, the importance of this process “reaches” his subconscious and he begins to ask for a pot. The habit of going to the children's potty, over the course of several years, develops into the need to visit the toilet.

Why it takes 21 days to form a habit

This is a completely logical question that interests everyone who has set out to instill this or that habit. I wonder why not 30 days or 35, namely 21 days? In fact, this number is scientifically based, but in order to understand why a habit is formed in 21 days, it will be interesting for you to know a few historical facts.

The first to put forward the theory of "21 days" was the plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz. In 1950, he noticed that his patients, after operations on their appearance, get used to their appearance only after 21 days. He described his hypothesis in the book "Psychocybrnetics". After the work of a doctor was lamented by society, the theory was talked about everywhere.

After 20 years, psychologists from London questioned the claim that a habit is developed in 21 days. They conducted their study, which involved 96 volunteers. It lasted 12 weeks. Each was given a task to regularly perform some specific action. After the end of the experiment, after analyzing all the results, they found out that the period of habit formation is different for each person. This is due to the individuality of each individual. Getting used to performing a certain action occurs within 18-254 days.

Another study was conducted by American scientists on astronauts. The experiment involved 20 people. Each of them was given glasses that they were not supposed to take off for 30 days. These glasses were special. The secret was in the lenses. Wearing them, the world turned upside down (in the truest sense of the word), that is, the astronauts saw an inverted image.

Scientists noticed that it was after 21 days that the brain of each of the participants in the experiment adapted. If the glasses were removed on the 10th or 19th day, then the experiment had to be restarted, because the effect disappeared. After the volunteers got used to seeing the world upside down, they were allowed to remove their glasses. After that, their brains were rebuilt again for 21 days.

Many consider the result of US scientists unreliable, because the astronauts did not take off their glasses during the entire experiment, which lasted about 300 hours. If you rely on their result, then in order to accustom yourself to daily jogging, you will have to run for 21 days, interrupted only by sleep.

Having studied the results of all the studies conducted, we can say that a habit is developed in a minimum of 21 days, a maximum of 254. This is influenced by many factors, which we will now discuss.

How to force yourself to move forward

If you decide to get any good habit and doubt your willpower, try to negotiate with your "I". For example, you decide to read books before going to bed and thus develop, but you don’t know how much you will last. Think of habit formation as a 21-day experiment. This time will be enough for you to understand whether you need it at all or not.

The main thing! Just start doing. Do it once, and tomorrow just do it again. So, day after day. Stop reading, go and do it! It is also important to remember that over the years you will regret that you did not change something in your life that could have been more decisive! Think about it, root it in your head, say it out loud if you need to when it's hard to get off the couch and go do what you have planned.

And the first habit on the list is getting things done. Survive 21 days. Prove to yourself that you can do it.

In order for a habit to become a part of your life, it must bring joy, harmony and a sense of self-satisfaction. Therefore, do not be afraid to experiment and act.

Take a piece of paper and write down 10 habits that will make your life better. Then choose the one you want. Make a promise to yourself that you will perform the action regularly for 21 days. Take a calendar and circle these days. Opposite each date, put a plus if the task was completed today, or a minus if not. Such visibility will help to control the implementation of actions and make you proud of yourself.

If, at the end of the experiment, you realize that you still don’t like the habit, drop it and start the experiment with a new task.

For example, if you read non-fiction every day for 3 weeks before going to bed, and after this period you do not feel satisfied, stop torturing yourself. If you still want to expand your horizons, try reading easy-to-read books, poetry, classics, etc. By sorting through, you will definitely find your favorite works and be able to develop a habit in 21 days.

Step by Step Habit Formation

Habit formation is a rather difficult and responsible process. It consists of several stages that must be completed. Now we will tell you how to do it step by step.

Decision-making . To develop a habit, you need to understand that you really need it. In addition, you still have to want to get it. Desire will control your actions and help you overcome the difficult period of 21 days. For example, you decide to eat only healthy and wholesome food in order to lose weight, feel healthy and cheerful. In this case, when you want to eat sausages, your subconscious will stop you.
Start. If you have a goal, then take action. Do not put off such an important matter for “later”. Don't wait for a new week, month, or Have a good mood because the habit will accompany you throughout your life.
Repeat for the first two days . After you have started active actions, you need to hold out for the first 2 days. This is the initial distance to be overcome.
Repeat for a week . This is the second distance to be overcome. Every day, no matter what, do the intended action. Habit formation does not include weekends and holidays.
Repeat for 21 days. By doing the action during this period of time, you will realize that you are doing it automatically. That is, the process of forming a habit is already bringing the first successes.
Repeat 40 days . It is necessary to continue to control the development of the habit after 21 days. After all, three weeks may not be enough. It depends on the complexity of the habit, motivation and individual characteristics of the person.
Repeat for 90 days . After you have done exactly 90 days, you can say with great confidence that you will form a stable habit.

How not to break?

We are all human and we tend to have doubts. This also applies to habits. Sometimes a person, depending on his strong-willed abilities, is very difficult not to go astray. Now we will share little secrets that will not only help you develop a new habit in 21 days, but also temper your willpower.

Think of your own reward , which you can afford if you do not wake up for free and complete everything on time.
Use positive reinforcement : self-hypnosis, imitation of someone, in general, anything, if only it would help you not to go astray.
Constantly motivate yourself . Without proper self-hypnosis, you will not achieve the desired result and will not understand that you really need a habit. If you find it hard to do this, seek help from family and friends who believe in you. They charge you positive emotions and return to the right path. In addition, look around you, for sure, those around you have noticed the changes that have taken place in you. Positive reviews friends and colleagues is also a great motivator. For example, if you decide to go to the gym, then after a couple of weeks you will notice how your body is changing. This can not be overlooked by others. They will certainly speak positively about your habit, and relatives will encourage your undertaking. This is what will make you move on, not stopping there.
Keep track of the regularity of actions . Habit formation does not tolerate even the shortest breaks. In case of failures, you will have to start all over again. Only daily work on yourself guarantees a positive result. It's like taking pills: if the doctor says to take them 3 times a day, for 4 weeks, then you need to do it, otherwise the disease will return, and the result of the treatment will be meaningless. To make it easier to do this, keep a diary of your successes and write down daily that the action was completed, what emotions it aroused in you, who appreciated your undertaking. At a time when you want to "give up", look through your records. They won't let you stop halfway. Blogging is trendy these days, so why not start now. A sense of responsibility to a large audience of readers will not let you go astray. And people, by the way, are very fond of such experiments and are happy to follow this.
Put in enough effort . It is easy to get used only to bad habits, useful ones are acquired by hard and painstaking work. Remember this and constantly work on yourself. If you feel like quitting, think about how much you have already done to make the habit a part of you. Once you understand how far you have come and how much you have endured, you will not want to stop.

Tips from successful people to help form a habit

Probably, each of us, at least once in our lives, looked at successful, rich and self-sufficient people with envy. But they have become so, thanks to the right habits. Having developed them in themselves, they were able to achieve what they wanted. Here are some secrets from successful people, which will help to develop a habit for everyone.

Plan your every day . Write down all your activities that you want to complete during the day. Through some experimental research, it has been proven that 6 items on the list should be done per day. It is this amount that is realistic to perform, regardless of their volume. Don't forget the habit. By doing it at the scheduled time, you will not be able to evade its implementation.
Develop multiple habits at once . For example, if you decide to lead healthy lifestyle life, then go to the gym, eat right, etc.
Check yourself for "Weak". Simply put, challenge yourself to change yourself in 21 days. For example, standing in front of a mirror, tell your reflection “Is it weak for you not to eat food from fast foods for 21 days?”. Your subconscious will rebel, and this will allow you to hold out for the cherished 3 weeks.
Self-development. Always develop, strive to learn something new, broaden your horizons. The more useful information you learn, the wiser you become. And the knowledge acquired during life helps in many situations, including the process of habit formation.
Get regular exercise. It is useful for the physical, psychological and moral state of a person.
smile. No matter what, smile at everyone. If you find no reason to be happy, smile anyway. At first, you can imagine yourself as an actor who plays his part. Over time, you will realize that you really like this state, because in response people respond to you in the same way.

All recommendations apply to reverse order: you can do both self-development, and, for example, the development of positive habits in your children. Methodical, environmentally friendly, helpful and you can develop any skill in your children. Children who have more mindful, ingrained and regular habits are more successful both among peers and in adulthood. At the heart of habit formation is discipline. Discipline your child, but at the same time show by your own example that everything is possible and then everything will work out for him too.

Every person has a million habits. Some of them are good and some not so good. But they all directly influence the formation of our character. If you don’t like something about yourself, then the same habits will help to correct the situation again. Simple steps, which you will do for 3 weeks, will become a habit, and after 3 months they will transform into a need. Developing habits in 21 days is not difficult at all, the main thing is to believe in yourself and go towards your goal.

21 day mental diet, Brian Tracy

You can't change your life overnight, but you can change thoughts that will change your life forever!

How do you want to radically change your life, make it rich, interesting and happy. Each of us at least once in our lives thought about it. And what is the result? Success or disappointment? Joy or sadness? How to concentrate your efforts on success and take the path of well-being and peace?

How to start a new life and change yourself right now? Let's look into this, direct our actions and thoughts to a successful result, find mistakes in thinking and try to change the world around. Ready? Then let's start!

How to change your lifestyle once and for all?

Many psychologists claim that only the thoughts within us give rise to reality! Everything that surrounds us today is a figment of the imagination! Our consciousness "plans tomorrow", programs for good and bad deeds.

You think that nothing can be changed, you complain about the bad people around you, insensitive bosses, naughty children, and so on. But, in this way, you doom yourself to failure in advance, do not want to conquer fears, expel them from your thoughts, look at the world with different eyes, more confident and courageous.

Laziness gives rise to powerlessness, makes you close your eyes to the existing way of life, negatively adjusts your consciousness, plays a bad joke on you. What is missing? Common sense or wise advice?

Yes, you say, talking is one thing, but what practical methods can be applied in order to answer the question with confidence - how to radically change your life for the better and achieve your goals. So, wise advice from scientific sources!

Top 5 life hacks that can change your life!

In her practical and theoretical instructions, Louise Hay, a well-known psychologist, said: “The power is within us, and therefore we need to change our thinking, and the environment will adjust to the inner reality!”. These wise words can change everything, your intention changes everything.
The second rule is that strong motivation is needed in order for the desired to become a reality. Many video sources about working with the subconscious carry information that the Universal Kitchen is able to accept any order, you just need to formulate it correctly and give a powerful message that can change everything around.
The third rule is positive thinking, it is important to look at the world differently, answer the question for yourself - what is wrong, what is the problem, find the root of evil, and try to make every effort to eradicate negative thoughts. You say: no money, no car, no housing, you have already programmed yourself to fail, the Universe hears only the word "NO".
The fourth rule is to learn how to plan your life, not to leave everything to chance. Only you must be the master of your position and not lose the reins of power even for a moment.
Feel happy, visualize the picture, when everything is fine with you, you have achieved what you wanted, received a lot of positive impressions, let these thoughts firmly sit in your head in order to begin the process of correcting reality.

Attention: it is important to take the first step, not to give up and not give up, go to the end, overcome possible obstacles and be inspired by the thought that all this will lead to a new, long-awaited, happy life!

Let your ideas and actions radically change your thinking, give you a happy personal, family, professional life, in a matter of days, months will lead to confidence and fearlessness in the future!

How to find the strength in yourself to change your life for the better?

Why do we always endure to the last, and do not dare to take a radical step into the unknown, why we consider ourselves losers in advance, do not change our way of thinking, and yet everything can be different ... with or without you.

Maybe you should force yourself to become better, change your attitude to life, turn to your subconscious and conquer your own fears. What are we afraid of? How many days and nights you can change everything back, renounce painful memories and stop living in the past.

You need to look around, decide what pulls you into the abyss, what does not allow you to rise above your fears. If these are the people around you, then it's time to change them to those who love and appreciate you, support you in all your endeavors, and do not complain about your shortcomings.

Important! To be happy, you need to start appreciating what you have. Yes, you do not own a mansion in Monaco, but you have a house or an apartment that hundreds of thousands of people dream about, wandering around rented dwellings.

You need to live in the present, stop for a moment and realize what can now make you successful and prosperous (people, circumstances, knowledge, material aspects, wise instructions from your spiritual father).

If you notice small pleasures every day (a cup of invigorating coffee, the touch of a hand loving person, purring kitten), then soon you will feel how much more beautiful ordinary life becomes, consciousness changes, laziness disappears, there is a desire to do something more, both for yourself and for others!

It is not for nothing that psychologists confidently say one thing - positive instructions and meditations make thinking bright and outstanding, and as a result, actions become bold and decisive!

There are 365 days in a year, take and plan this time for weeks, months, decades, half-years, set small and global goals, take full responsibility for your life and go forward with your head held high!

The story of one life!

“She lived and did not know what would happen tomorrow, her husband completely took control of her actions and even thoughts. Protected from what he loved, forced to quit his job, did not give the opportunity to give birth to a child, because, as he put it: "Children are not included in my plans." And she endured everything, and there were no more tears to cry over her miserable life.

And so, one day she had a dream, their unborn baby, who said: “Mommy, I want you to be happy and give birth to my brother and sister!”. The woman sobbed until the morning, and then decided to firmly leave her husband.

Of course, the faithful did not approve of this act, he got angry, shouted, waved his fists, but his thinking had already been reprogrammed and launched to implement new, cardinal plans.

Hope (our heroine) is gone. At first it was hard, her husband left her penniless, all her friends turned away, because ex-husband forbade them to communicate with her. The woman found the strength to get up, did various jobs, traded in the market, washed the floors in the entrance, where she was given a small room, barely made ends meet.

Strength, assertiveness and desire helped her defeat all the evil that surrounded her. Over time, Nadia found a good job in her specialty, rented a cozy apartment with decent living conditions, and after a while she met the one with whom she is happy to this day, raising her long-awaited children - a son and a daughter.

Life is beautiful, and no matter how evil it is, you need to thank the Higher powers for the opportunity to be on this earth, enjoy its gifts and not give up, no matter what happens! Forgive the offenders and love yourself truly, listen to the wise instructions of the experienced and learn from your own and others' mistakes! Drawing conclusions from mistakes will become a springboard for inevitable success.

How to change your life in a short time?

Any business needs to start with planning, this is a special step-by-step instruction, which will help not to forget something important and basic. It is best to take a notebook and a pen, and fix all your thoughts on paper.

To make it easier to plan, use the following table:

Target	What's stopping you?	What will help?	What is it for?
I want to go in for sports, do morning runs.	Need to get up early.	Special Literature.	Improve health.
	Change the diet, make it right and healthy.	Educational video.	Get rid of osteochondrosis and related symptoms.
	You need to get rid of bad habits.	Advice from a trainer and nutritionist.	Lose a few pounds.
	I won't be able to watch the morning series and stuff.	Support of relatives and friends.	Become a role model!

Such a program works, because you actually see that you are being pulled down and that it does not allow you to achieve what you want. When there are changes in life, there is no room for bad mood and depression, the main thing is not to stop there, use meditation to improve the quality of your life!

Positive affirmations can turn your world upside down, and in order to master the art of meditation, you need to consciously take the righteous path, cast aside all the bad, take control of yourself and your life. For clarity, you can view a fragment of Elena Gorbacheva's webinar on how to improve your life in all directions!

Important: documentary"The Secret" will be able to answer many of your questions that will arise after the decision to radically change your life. Let this film become your support and support for the first time!

How to change consciousness?

Is it possible to manipulate consciousness in order to set thinking on a positive wave and improve the way of life? Where to start? First you need to change the picture of thought in your worldview, conduct a number of useful meditations that can affect the cognitive sphere of a person.

You may need the help of a psychologist to reprogram an unsuccessful life script, but if you yourself are able to improve your life, then go for it. Top 5 legal ways to eradicate bad thinking:

vivid visualization - a representation of the desired reality;
correct meditation is to speak in the present tense, not to use the particle “no” (for example, I want to be healthy, and not - I don’t want to get sick!);
learn how to enter a state of trance, yoga lessons will help with this;
thank the Universe for the gifts received;
do not give up, even if at first nothing works out, you need to discard negative thoughts and create a positive image of reality.

When reprogramming your thinking, you should not be distracted by secondary factors, and various circumstances, people with negative thoughts, wrong meditations, and so on can injure the core of your essence.

Each person up to 12 years old receives a set of standard ideas about the world, creates his own way of life, realizes what is bad and what is good. Sometimes these are false beliefs, and they have nothing to do with your worldview. So that's why you need to stop and look at the world with different (your) eyes!

There is nothing difficult in changing our consciousness, only laziness and indecision prevent us from taking a responsible step into a better future. Meditate every day, say to yourself: “My life is beautiful and perfect, my thoughts are pure and open. The Universe protects me and protects me from all troubles!”

Problems in the professional sphere - how to eliminate them and improve life?

Answer the questions in front of you - what exactly does not suit you at your previous place of work, salary, attitude of the boss, colleagues, subordinates, kind of active and so on. Tell yourself, now I am changing the rules and making my life bright, financially stable, interesting and happy.

Talk to your boss about salary, is there a chance to get a bonus or promotion? Direct your efforts to the maximum return in order to become an indispensable employee, then the boss will definitely have no doubts about the salary increase!
If colleagues are unpleasant for you, then stop wasting your time and emotions on them, ignore them, look for a smarter and more adequate team where you will be respected and appreciated for your efforts.
Field of activity is not suitable? So what are you doing here! The richest people made their fortune not at work, but by pursuing a desired hobby that brought them success, fame and material wealth.

If there are no visible problems, but you invented them for yourself, then you are still deprived of something, try to spend your free time with benefit, read more, develop yourself, discover the spiritual world, do charity work, find like-minded people and completely change not only your life, but also the world around you!

Top 10 life hacks from those who have already managed to change their lives for the better once and for all!

Need to get out of your comfort zone more often– every day to perform such actions that frighten, are contradictory and unusual. Try to do opposite things - like to argue - keep silent, wake up late - get up early tomorrow, change the route of work, put on bright makeup and so on.
Give your brain one task, and do not scatter energy over trifles, do one important thing, and do not grab onto several at once.
Ask yourself what will happen in 5 years if I don't change anything now? Are you satisfied with this answer?
Write down all the little things, and keep priority tasks in mind, do not deviate from the set course. Visualize, imagine the end result, use meditations correctly that will help change your life for the better.
Take a chance do not be afraid of anything, learn from your mistakes, go forward, not stopping there!
Do what pleases you and not others! Enjoy small joys, thank the Almighty for care and help!
Get rid of unnecessary things, projects, thoughts that inhibit consciousness, stop complaining about life, thereby making it even worse.
Ask around, instead of guessing who thinks what, in order to avoid dire consequences. They don't charge for asking!
Plan your time and don't take someone else's!
Love yourself and your life, create warmth and comfort, try to realize yourself in your favorite business and then success will be guaranteed!

Have you been able to realize what to do when everything around is bad and bleak. Or maybe you have been experiencing this state for many years and do not know what you want? Even if your ideas cannot drastically change family, professional, personal life, then do not be upset, the process of self-awareness has already been launched and there is no turning back.

Correct meditations can change thinking, improve the quality of thought, overcome inner stiffness and fear, remove laziness and passivity, give independence, infinity and faith in a beautiful future!

Conclusion!

Now you know for sure that you can do anything if you really want to! The power within you can transform your thinking, get rid of laziness and a negative attitude. Be kind, polite, purposeful, so that no one can lead you astray.

Joy to you and the fulfillment of all innermost desires!

Instruction

Throw away all doubts and laziness. You will have to work hard and for a long time. Do not expect that from Monday you will wake up new and everywhere you will achieve success and universal success. First, you will have to seriously work on and say goodbye to many habits that seemed quite comfortable to you.

Clearly articulate the shortcomings that hinder you. Define yours as accurately as possible. Write them down on a piece of paper. As a rule, all minor flaws are twisted around one big defect: all your behavior is subject to an obstacle in the form of one or another vice. Therefore, it will be small.

On another sheet, write down the traits that you want in yourself, based on your own worldview and natural inclination. The ideal list consists of one or two words, because a single goal allows you to focus energy on one process. But, if your goal consists of traits, write them all down.

Break your goal into several easily achievable milestones. Determine the due date for each. From now on, you will strictly adhere to this list, so the deadlines must be realistic. Do not overestimate your abilities, but do not give yourself slack. It will be good if each stage corresponds to one week: during this period you can complete enough to see at least a small result.

Start working on yourself immediately after the end of the lists. Do not transfer the beginning to Monday, the first, the beginning or the end of the vacation. The sooner you get down to business, the sooner your goals will come.

Work hard. Act as if you have already achieved your goal: for example, getting rid of bad habit, started playing sports, stopped being late everywhere or the like. Don't think about: they see you the way you show yourself. Praise yourself for any accomplishment, especially one that is ahead of schedule. Do not despair if a stage is not given to you the first time or on time. Redo the plan and fight the obstacle until you overcome it.