Lately I'm starting to feel like this site has become like Dictionary. In the last article I talked about that, and in this one I’ll talk about what is honesty and integrity. Is it good to be an honest and decent person in our time? In this article I will express my opinion, and you can continue your thoughts below in the comments.
What is honesty and integrity?
A question like this is fairly easy to answer. Honesty- This is the avoidance of fraud and deception in relationships with other people. Honesty doesn't only happen to other people. Honesty is the ability to admit that you are wrong, the ability not to make excuses or argue with other people. Honesty is a developed conscience that strictly controls a person.
Who is an honest person? Honest and decent person- this is a person who has developed that same conscience. This is the person who will never deceive or betray other people. You can 100% trust such people. An honest and decent person would rather remain silent than tell the truth. If he is sure that he will not cope with any task, then he will immediately say so in order to be honest.
Honesty can be external and internal. You can probably guess what I'm talking about. External honesty is honesty before people around you. Inner honesty is being honest with yourself. For many people, it is their inner honesty that is lacking. He who makes excuses tries in beautiful words explain your wrong actions and actions, simply builds big wall in front of. And what a relief comes when a person admits to himself his imperfection. It’s as if blocks of stones are falling off your shoulders. Being honest with yourself is much better than being honest with other people.
But is a person always honest? Unfortunately no. Even the most honest person in the world is bound to tell a lie somewhere. Read the article -. I want to add something here. Many people lie to appear cool to other people. There is nothing good in this, since sooner or later people will still find out who a person really is.
Our neighbors were like that. They always talked about how they would buy a new car, build a garage, fly to Miami on vacation, but they never bought anything, and they didn’t come back from vacation tanned. In such cases, people lie to themselves and others.
There is the opposite of such people - these are the people who become poor. That is, in fact, everything is wonderful with them, but they prefer to hide this "sweet" the truth from other people so that there is no envy. For example, a person earns 100,000 rubles a month, but tells others that he earns 25,000 rubles a month. And when they ask him about a new car, that is, where he bought it, he begins to invent funny stories. In such cases, a person does not want to offend anyone with his achievements, so he is forced to lie. To be honest, many people feel that they live better than others because they have been given more in this life.
There is a third category of people - they say what is. I am one of them. I say what is, what I saw and what I think. This is good and bad at the same time. I offend many people with my straightforwardness. Lately I've started to keep a close eye on this. Sometimes it is better to remain silent than to tell the truth.
There was just one story recently. I decided to take a walk around the Sormovsky district of my city. If today is February 15, then it was January 28. I went to shopping mall "Ant" to see what's there. I went up to the second floor and saw a familiar face. This was my classmate with whom I studied from fifth to ninth grade. He sat and sold candies, sweets, lollipops and so on. I walked up, greeted him, and we started talking about business. I asked him: “Do you work here?”. He said that he and his partner had recently opened and that in another "Ant"(there are two shopping centers in our city "Ant") he’s sitting right there. Well, naturally, I realized that this was not his point at all, and that he was simply working there as a salesman. I told him about my affairs. He didn’t believe me, and then I showed him the evidence. Through his phone, I showed him my sites, my traffic statistics, and so on, after which he believed me.
So it turned out that I was honest with him, and he slightly exaggerated his achievements. One of the shopping centers "Ant" immediately visible if I look out the window. I live 500 meters from him. I was there on the fifth floor and didn't see any partner. There was a girl sitting there, also in the role of a salesperson. This is just one story where a man exaggerated about his achievements. Another classmate of mine, with whom I studied from 10th to 11th grade, also exaggerated about his achievements, saying that on his website he and his two partners earned enough money for three apartments. After looking at his website and his statistics, I quickly determined that he was not sincere. In September 2013, he met me again. He said he sold his share. By the way, you can take a look at his website - zbull.ru. 459 people per month. This is not at all enough to earn money for three apartments.
Do you need to be an honest and decent person?
You can be honest with people. I mean don't talk about things that don't exist. It's better to say what it is. As a last resort, remain silent. In business and politics, being honest and decent is sometimes not worth it. I won’t take politics, everything is clear there, but I’ll take business as an example. In business, it is better to be honest with clients and partners. Otherwise, the company will lose face, authority, and, of course, profit.
While doing business, I noticed only one dishonesty of many companies - this is the exaggeration of the merits of their product. Many companies over-promote their products. For example, an information product. Now, if you buy this information product, your life will change 180 degrees. By purchasing such goods and studying them, life, as a rule, does not change. Everything remains the same.
Or take new company– Winner Academy is headed by the respected Vladimir Dovgan. In each video message, he claims that if you attract 10 active participants to your team per day, then after 35 days $50,000 will appear in your account every week. He claims that WA is the first project in the world that is doing something that no one else in the world has done. After analyzing the project, I came to the conclusion that it is a mixture of a financial pyramid with an information business. The project is really good and environmentally friendly, but it will be difficult for beginners to succeed in it; middle-market people already have their own websites and their own audience and this project has no use for them. I’m generally silent about professionals.
That is, in business, many companies engage in exaggeration. In business this is acceptable; there is no place for absolute honesty and decency. Advertising is advertising, PR is PR. Everyone needs to earn money. And exaggeration is great for convincing people to make a purchase.
It is better to be honest with yourself and be cunning with others. I think I will be honest with you if I say that I managed to answer the question: “What is honesty and integrity?” and where it is worth being one, and where it is not worth it. Ciao.
If you want to know what will happen to you if you are always honest, then watch the film with Jim Carrey: "Liar Liar".
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I want to talk to you about honesty. I don't want to speak in my own words. Why? Because she sometimes interferes with my life and I don’t want to admit it. It turns out that I'm being dishonest with myself. Okay, here's what I found on the internet
Every person dreams of a kind and honest friend, spouse, boss, co-worker. Is not it? Kindness and honesty are qualities that most people try to find in other people, forgetting that first of all they need to be like that themselves.
What is honesty? Let's talk about honesty. It is worth trying to define this rather difficult concept. Honesty is a character trait when a person always tells the truth and tries not to lie under any circumstances. He avoids lies and omissions. Honesty is the ability to always admit that you are wrong, it is the ability to never make excuses, to be sincere in any situation. An honest person has a conscience that never sleeps, which strictly controls all his actions and actions.
About types of honesty There are two types of honesty - honesty with other people and honesty with yourself. At first glance, it seems that being completely honest with yourself is very easy. However, it is not. Very often people fall into a network of illusions they themselves create and can remain in them for a long time. For example, there are cases when a person considers another person to be his most sincere friend, trusts him in everything, helps him, and years later it turns out that friendship as such did not exist. It’s just that the first one wanted to believe in this holy feeling, and the other simply skillfully took advantage of its principles. Therefore, it is very important to never deceive yourself. Now let's talk about honesty with others. What does this concept include? First of all, it is being true to your word. An honest person will always keep his promise and help in difficult times. You can trust him like yourself. He always speaks to the point and would rather remain silent than flatter and sing praises.
Is it easy to be honest? Unfortunately, to be honest modern world It’s very difficult, since deception, meanness and betrayal can be found at every step. In most cases, they love those people who can cheat, avoid answering, or lavish compliments. That is why man has an unbearably difficult mission to bring kindness and light to this world. Honesty is not only a quality of character, but also a duty of those people who consider themselves highly moral. There are several reasons why people choose to be honest. Those who believe in God will say that the seventh commandment says: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” And they will be completely right in living according to the Lord’s instructions. Others, non-believers, can also be no less honest, since they cannot live otherwise. Thus, we can conclude that honesty comes in different ways. Honesty of a person also lies in the eradication of lies. He will try with all his might to prevent the other from lying, and in any situation he will strive to ensure that justice prevails.
Laws of the Universe Honesty is living according to the laws of the Universe. It is worth noting that they are all honest. For example, the boomerang law. He did a good deed - it will definitely return in the future, he committed an evil deed and, it seems, has already forgotten about it, but no, he will return, and at the most inopportune moment. Honestly, isn't it?
A little about straightforwardness However, it is worth distinguishing between honesty and excessive straightforwardness, or even rudeness. An honest person is always correct, although he speaks the truth. A straightforward person says everything he thinks about, without even realizing that his words are not always appropriate and can hurt his neighbor. When speaking the truth, be, first of all, correct.
Be honest and sincere, and then your conscience will always remain calm. Also, do not forget that you need to be sincere to yourself. Good luck to you in this difficult but very necessary task!
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If I am a decent person, it is because decency itself
good in itself, and not because I will be rewarded for it.
John Galsworthy. The girl is waiting
Decency as a personal quality is the ability to follow the moral standards of the Divine commandments, the requirements of the laws of the Universe; incapacity for low actions, for unethical behavior towards rivals in a difficult situation for them.
A boy of about ten years old entered the cafe and sat down at a table. The waitress approached him. — How much does chocolate ice cream with nuts cost? - asked the boy. “Thirty rubles,” the woman answered. The boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and counted the coins. — How much does a simple ice cream cost, without anything? - asked the child. “Twenty-five rubles,” answered the waitress. The boy counted the coins again. “I want simple ice cream,” he decided. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and left. The child ate the ice cream, paid the bill at the cash register and left. When the waitress returned to clear the table, a lump stuck in her throat when she saw that next to the empty vase were neatly folded coins, three rubles - her tip.
When in doubt about what to do to avoid dishonor, act according to your conscience; it will always unmistakably show you the noble and decent path.
Decency is spiritual cleanliness. Decency is the ability not to cause harm in word, deed, or thought, to anyone, never, under any circumstances. Honest man will never commit a dishonest act that could have even hypothetically negative consequences for anyone, including himself personally.
Decency is the ability of the soul and mind in every action to be in unison with the Divine commandments and laws of the Universe. For example, a decent person carries the commandment “Thou shalt not kill” through life not only as an inability to kill innocent people, but also as concern for the environment and the well-being of other forms of life. Decency refers to the commandment “Do not steal” in the context: - it is better to give what is yours than to take someone else’s; - it is better to suffer a loss yourself than to cause harm to someone else; - It is better to live from hand to mouth than to become a thief.
A decent person is one who learned on Earth to be God. Decency is an algorithm in which the first thought before an act is: “What would God do in this case?”, and then, having received the approval of the mind and the applause of the soul, the act itself is performed.
According to the “Definitions” of the Platonic school, decency is “sincerity of character, combined with a correct way of thinking; honesty of character." In translations of Aristotle's ethical writings, the term "decency" is sometimes rendered epieikeya(which is more often translated as kindness). Decent ( epiakes) a person will never do anything bad of his own free will. He chooses in his behavior what the legislator determined in general terms, but could not detail for each individual case.
Decency will act in accordance with one's conscience despite one's own interests. Imbued with a sense of justice, it is friendly with conscience, honor and morality. She never envy anyone. On the contrary, she tries to enjoy other people's successes, does not strive to get what already belongs to someone else, she is honest and truthful. Decency recognizes the shortness of life and hastens to do good. She treats other people with understanding and compassion, while showing kindness and responsiveness.
Decency does not slander, that is, it speaks of the absent person as if he were sitting opposite. Stephen Covey writes: “A lack of integrity can undermine almost any effort to create a High Trust Account. If you are two-faced by nature, then you may strive to understand the other person, pay attention to detail, keep promises, clarify and meet expectations - but you will never be able to accumulate the desired reserve of trust. Integrity includes honesty, but it is broader than that. To be honest is to tell the truth, to provide the correspondence of our words to reality. Being decent means being consistent with reality. in our words, that is, keeping promises and meeting expectations. This requires good character and unity - mainly with oneself, but also with the reality of life. One of the most important manifestations of decency is loyalty to absent. By protecting those who are absent, you gain the trust of those who are present.
Suppose you and I are talking alone and we both criticize our manager in a manner that we would not dare do in his presence. What happens if you and I have a disagreement? You know very well that I will discuss your shortcomings with someone. This is exactly what you and I were doing behind the back of our leader. You know my nature. I say nice things to your face, but slander behind your back. You’ve seen how I can do it.”
A decent person is obliging and respectful of other people. It would never even occur to him to make promises, knowing in advance that he will not fulfill them. He takes his obligations and agreements sacredly. With such a person there is no need to deal with written agreements, signatures, seals and sanctions. It is enough to shake his hand and you can be completely sure that he will break into pieces, but will fulfill his obligations. You can rely on decency; it will not let you down in difficult times, it will not betray you, it will not set you up, and it will not incriminate you.
If you want to be respected, respect others. Respect for people is the hallmark of integrity. Therefore, she is highly valued by other decent people. One of the richest men in the world, Warren Buffett, said: “When I hire people, I look for three qualities. The first is integrity, the second is intelligence and the third is high energy. But if the first one is missing, the other two will kill you!” The translator used the word “integrity” to describe what in Russia is more commonly called decency. At the same time, due to the predictability of one’s behavior, decency becomes easy prey for manipulators, intriguers, in a word, the entire long gallery of dishonest people.
A person cannot be spiritual until he becomes decent. The power to be decent is the minimum requirement for spirituality. You can become a spiritual person by cultivating culture and morality. But to do this, you first need to become a decent person. The road to spirituality is crooked without having decency. If a person cannot behave decently, what kind of spirituality will he have? Such a “spiritual” teacher will sleep with his students without a twinge of conscience and take a bribe for passing an exam. A decent person is not capable of this.
Of course, students are different, but a decent teacher would rather drown himself before succumbing to voluptuousness. One such student tells her friend: “Can you imagine, he raped me, and I considered him a teacher!” - How did this happen? - How, how... We went to the sauna with him, then he invited me to his place for a drink, I was so lucky, I undressed, climbed into bed, and then he attacked me... - You climbed into his bed naked and say that were you raped?! - Well, I was counting so much on his decency...
Decency is a personality quality that can be cultivated through the gradual cultivation of other virtues. People, faced with an abundance of virtues, sometimes get scared, not understanding how to simultaneously grow them in the “bed” of their soul. There is one trick here: once you cultivate, for example, responsibility, this virtue will pull behind it a whole “armful” of other positive personality traits. Along with responsibility, commitment, honesty and decency will become your asset.
One young man at the age of 22 set a goal for himself - to cultivate in himself such virtues that will allow him to become a worthy and decent person. He took this unusually seriously. Knowing that a goal becomes a goal if it is formalized in writing, he started a special notebook in which he formulated the virtues that he decided to develop in himself, and began to monitor them every day, develop them - and give himself grades in the notebook for his successes. Many years passed, but perseverance and perseverance were rewarded - he succeeded: Benjamin Franklin became one of the most decent people of his time.
Peter Kovalev
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A girl’s honesty and equanimity is what irritates other girls and attracts guys)
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I want to go back to last summer. Your sincerity was there.
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Decent tone is about sincerity and honesty.
Fedor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky
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Faith. By strictly observing the basic Christian commandments, a person cultivates decency.
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There is little merit if a person is honest only because no one tried to bribe him.
Cicero
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He is such an honest person that he even smiles when he puts a smiley face...
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All women value honesty very much, but among them this quality is extremely rare...
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Sincerity is the mother of truth and the sign of an honest person.
D. Diderot
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Integrity is a bouquet of virtues such as honesty, kindness, nobility, generosity and self-esteem.
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You will not get sharp criticism from a person until you make him angry; The harsh truth is always expressed with bitterness.
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An honest man can be persecuted, but not dishonored.
Voltaire
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The truth, like a jewel, does not need to be embellished, but it should be positioned so that it is visible in favorable light.
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Honesty is when you think to say one thing, but tell the truth.
Perlyuk Alexander
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The more I try to be honest, the deeper the necessary words sink into darkness...
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Decency is a moral quality of a person. A decent person always keeps his promises and does not intentionally harm others.
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An honest soul is restrained by conscience, and a scoundrel grows stronger from his insolence.
Pliny the Younger
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To be honest with someone who is dishonest is to be dishonest with yourself.
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Living happily means living honestly.
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Sincerity does not consist in saying everything you think, but in thinking exactly what you say.
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The truly honest person is the one who always asks himself if he is honest enough.
Plautus Titus Maccius
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Decency is a strong commitment to a code of especially important moral values, incorruptibility.
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An honest poor man can sometimes forget about his poverty. An honest rich man never forgets about his wealth. Gilbert Keith Chesterton
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Honesty is often reckless. Louis Aragon Statuses about honesty, sincerity, decency
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Looking for honesty in big politics is like looking for a needle in a haystack. (Kushner Konstantin)
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The first key to integrity and honesty is being sincere with yourself.
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The second key to integrity and honesty is to be sincere to all people.
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The power of honesty is so great that we value it even among the enemy.
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Sincerity in small doses is dangerous; in large ones it is deadly. (WILDE Oscar)
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Honesty is even more valuable decent people than learning for educated people. (RUSSO Jean Jacques)
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“If you lie once, you will have to lie fifteen more times to cover up the first lie.” In order not to strain your mind, not to waste extra energy and to save time, it is much more profitable to always tell the truth and be honest with people.
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Hiding things from friends is dangerous; but it’s even more dangerous not to hide anything from them. ( Lafontaine Jean de)
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Honesty is the best and at the same time the most justified course of action. (Lubbock John)
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Honesty beautifies any title. (Schiller F.)
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No one is as adept at approaching honesty as scammers. (Sukhorukov Leonid S.)
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Decency and honesty are too expensive gifts. And you shouldn’t expect them from cheap people.
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This is a difficult job - to be extremely honest with yourself... Vanity gets in the way. Our life is vanity, because you don’t have time to understand anything, and everything flashes by...
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An honest attitude towards something, honest behavior. There is no doubt about his honesty. “When he talks about high honesty, ... his eyes are bloody, his face is burning.” Griboyedov.
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We call a person honest who openly expresses his opinion; dishonest - one who either does not speak out or gets off with a forced (or simply) lie.
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One of the most important manifestations of decency is respect for those who are absent. By showing it, you earn the trust of those present. If you speak badly about people behind their backs, those present will stop trusting you.
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A decent woman manages to do all her personal affairs during working hours.
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Sometimes you want to become a bird and fly high, high... if only so that no one shits on your head.
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A noble man is everywhere an outcast for his fellow tribesmen and women.
Al Maari
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Telling a person the whole truth to his face is sometimes more than a duty - it’s a pleasure.
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“We sincerely believe in the decency, honesty and law-abiding nature of Mikhail Alekseevich Lysenko”
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I swear to lie only the truth, the only truth and nothing but the truth))
Statuses about honesty, sincerity, decency
Decency– honesty, inability to engage in low, immoral, antisocial acts. A decent person is honest and conforms to accepted rules of behavior.
Ozhegov's Dictionary
Decency– the moral quality of a person, characterized by strict adherence to established norms of behavior in the society in which his life takes place; inability to consciously, intentionally commit acts that are contrary to the norms of public morality, morality and education, and in the event of an accidental or forced violation of these norms - the ability to experience feelings of shame and guilt.
Wikipedia
- Integrity is a bouquet of virtues such as honesty, kindness, nobility, generosity and self-esteem.
- Decency is the ability to treat your neighbor as yourself, without doing or wishing for him what you would like to do or wish for yourself.
- Decency is the willingness to defend justice, even if it does not coincide with personal interests.
- Decency is the willingness of a person, faced with a choice of what to do, to always act according to his conscience.
The Benefits of Integrity
- Decency ensures respect - even a lowly person has respect for a decent person.
- Decency gives strength - to make fair decisions.
- Decency gives freedom - from greed, anger and spiritual emptiness.
- Decency makes it possible to see and appreciate best qualities in every person.
- Decency gives hope - to change the world for the better.
Demonstrations of integrity in everyday life
- Bible. “But let your word be: “yes - yes”, “no - no”; and anything beyond this is from the evil one” (Gospel of Matthew).
- Philosophy. Plato wrote about decency, defining it as “sincerity of character combined with the right way of thinking.” Aristotle wrote about decency, defining a decent person as a person who never does anything bad of his own free will.
- Ethics. In ethics there is a principle of “presumption of decency”, following which every person should be considered decent until he proves otherwise.
- Traditions. In Russia, a merchant’s “word of honor” was more reliable than many written documents; to break one's word or act dishonestly meant losing one's reputation forever.
- Interpersonal communication. A person who prefers truthful criticism to conciliation and insincere praise in communication shows decency.
How to develop integrity
- Faith. By strictly observing the basic Christian commandments, a person cultivates decency.
- Family education. Parents, setting an example for their children of honesty, sincerity in communication, and being true to their word, teach their children to be decency and strengthen themselves in this virtue.
- Admitting your mistakes. By recognizing and trying to correct his voluntary or involuntary mistakes, a person cultivates decency in himself.
- Reading spiritual, philosophical, classical literature. By increasing the level of education and expanding one’s horizons through exposure to quality literature, a person creates the basis for developing decency in oneself.
Golden mean
Uncleanliness
Decency
Super Integrity | absolute, refined decency, existing in isolation from reality